I have been married for 3 years now, and my wife hates florida. I am currently station there and dont really have the option of leaving unless I go overseas. Right now I am deployed and she has the car. She says she isnt comming back to stay with me when I get back. Right now all of our stuff is in storage and I have no apartment until I get back. She told me that I can ride a bike to work or figure somthing out. Plus we fight all the time over the phone while Im over here. I give give and give. Somtimes I feel like Ive given so much she doesnt want me anymore
2007-02-27 13:57:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Three years and you are going through this already. I feel for you. Here is my point of view. I am quite sure she was aware of you having to be stationed in Florida and having to stay a certain duration. My first question is... does she want to be married to you? If she does, then you both must compromise. For instance, when you are deployed, maybe she can go stay with her parents or relatives while you are away. Therefore, she doesn't feel like she is stuck in Florida. But to take the car while you are away...that was not a good move on her part. She did it because it was an opportunity to leave because you were not there to stop her. You can only give what you can give. And she probably feel the same. The both of you have to talk on a common ground. Is there anyone that you both can talk to....a referee of sorts. Someone who can be neutral and love the both of you. If you know that person ask them for a little help. Hopefully when you come back to Florida, she will come back and talk things through...I wish the both of you, the best of luck. Keep your head up and keep the faith.
2007-02-27 14:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, well I hate to say a marriage is over. It sounds as if this problem has been brewing for some time and now it has exploded. A relationship takes 2 people and at the end of the day if she does not want to be with you there is nothing that can be done. It hurts but it is better for you if you are not involved with a person that does not want to be with you. Find a compromise if there is one, she is your wife so give it another shot and give some more. If your wife is unwilling to negotiate or meet you halfway think about counseling and then divorce (as a last option). I hope this helps and good luck.
2007-02-27 22:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by ms_knowit_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
First of all, I don't knwo why she would hate florida. I am currently overseas myself and miss Florida with a passion. But ANYWAY, I think she is being selfish-and she needs to think of your feelings too. You should ask her to keep an open mind, and give yout he respect you deserve by at least talking things over soundly.... Marriage requires WORK! Both parties, including HER.
2007-02-27 22:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Soon to be mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your wife has already made up her mind by telling you she isn't coming back. If you's are fighting constantly are you getting anything worthwhile out of your relationship? If you feel you have given all you can then don't let her suck anymore of your energy as she will only bring you down. Tell her not to bother coming back and find yourself a nice woman to settle down with, someone who will love you and not suck you dry.
2007-02-27 22:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so-called wife is telling you to ride a bike to work, and cannot compromise with you about where you live, I would ditch the *****.
Then again, there are always two sides to every story.
If the two of you are that unhappy, perhaps it is time to talk about a permanent solution.
2007-02-27 22:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read ur problem n think over again n again after discussing with my spouse.well i can only give u the final solution(i feel so sad):divorce.go n get another girl who really loves u n takes care of u.good luck.
2007-02-27 22:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out sweet soldier. You deserve much better....
2007-02-27 22:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
id tell her go to hell if she don't want you anymore
2007-02-27 22:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋