I am 54 years old and my wife is 51 years old. She loves me so much. I only like her, not love her. We been together for at least 30+ years. I never had children with her but I did made love to her since I was 28 years old. She fell shortly to a terminal accident. I never fell in love with her. I told her "I love you" so many times I cannot even count. I never fell in love with her. I didn't leave her because I didn;t want to be sad if she had died (died at age 51). I can imagine myself leaving her and not being sad. When she died, she told me that she was very happy to have met me in her life. I don't feel bad at all for her death. At least, she knew I love her before she died even though that isn't true. I had to fake crying on her funeral to let her family think that I am sad but really, I am not sad. Am I truly evil? now that she is gone, I want to start dating again, Any tips on how to get a girlfriend at age 54?
2007-02-27 13:40:41 · 6 answers · asked by Mr Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women fall in love w/the provider, the protector, the lover, the friend. "SOME" men don't have as deep of an emotional connection in that area as woman. Maybe you are one of those.
It sounds as if you two were definately friends or you wouldn't have stayed together so long.
I don't think your evil, I think your emotional/ rational thinking is conflicted over the lack of feeling you had at her death. I think it's sad that you didn't have a deeper connection; but if you didn't, you can't force it.
You apparently cared for her or you wouldn't have made her feel good by telling her you loved her endless times and you obviously cared about her family to let them feel you loved her as well. See - that's not evil.
Dating tips I'm short on because it depends on the people you know and are around. Start there - and for goodness sakes... don't give up the "I love You" unless you feel it.
2007-02-27 14:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sadi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r wrong n u should repent deeply cos u didn't act as a good husband 4 her 30 yrs n i don't understand y u married her without love?now she's gone n somemore u want to marry again at 54?it's absurb!if u were married ur kid w'd be affected in health.think twice b4 u do anything.ur partner should be around 48 yrs old lady,either old spinster or widowee.good luck.
2007-02-27 22:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you trying to convince? You gave us this long explanation of how you dont love her, but none of us care......you could have gone right into the dating thing....unless of course, you do care. See a counselor or a pastor...get your head on straight before you get involved in another unavail relationship...
2007-02-27 23:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that was strange cuz people love each other and don't get to 30 yrs of marriage without cheating or ending in divorce. well u really cared for her but it had to be love before u cared so much
2007-02-27 22:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it long and hard, you loved her. How else could you put up with the same person for 30 years. your not evil, just confused.
Myspace has some pretty hott teens! (just kidding)
Try dating online :).
2007-02-27 21:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m sorry about your wife even if you wasn't in love with her its still sad im seprated from my husband for abuse im sure you will find some one to date; im 58, i was older than my husband sometimes you can get a women at church thats all tip's i know but make sure your in love next time you marry if you do
2007-02-27 21:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋