how do i stop. i'll just see a person that i don't even know and i'll just start criticizing them in my mind! Help
2007-02-27 13:24:33 · 16 answers · asked by :) 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's horrible. How would you like it if they did that to you? Just picture yourself in their shoes and see how they'd feel if they knew you were insulting them. It's just wrong and you should stop. You need help.
2007-02-27 13:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone! My husband does the same thing. You are right in wanting to change this! I hate listening to him degrade everyone and everything. It's not pleasant to be around someone who hates and despises everyone! Maybe after you make that critical judgment about someone you could try to also think of one good thing about them. Maybe they are dirty and stinky because of the hard work they do, or maybe that overweight person is in that condition not because they eat too much, but because of other reasons. Believe me, I've heard all of the insults, but I try to get my husband to look in other directions. Sometimes he will think about it more, sometimes not. It's a difficult thing to change the way your mind thinks, but I'm glad to see that you're wanting to!
2007-02-27 18:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a phrase that I keep in mind when I get in those moods:
All criticism attacks the criticizer.
You are really passing judgement upon youself. Good Luck in working out this problem.
2007-02-27 13:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by cap3382 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are too good to do that. It belittles you every time you do that.
The next time you start to do that look for something good about the person. Think if the shoe was on the other foot and someone did that about you. Just smile and walk by without the insult. You
can do it!!
2007-02-27 13:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn a little empathy for your fellow creatures and a little humility for yourself.
Remember the golden rule your Mom never taught you: If you cannot say anything nice, zip it.
People who act like this usually have a self esteem problem. I am not being cruel, just stating fact.
Best you keep all that inside.
2007-02-27 13:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to keep it to yourself. Maybe you'll save up enough material to be an insult comic someday.
2007-02-27 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you start criticizing you should look at the good qualities in a person first. think of the good. not the bad. but hey if there ugly i would criticize too!
2007-02-27 13:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by no one 3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you try to bring everyone down, you must feel you are below them all. you need to deal with yourself if you honestly want to stop being critical of others.
2007-02-27 13:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by lightperson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out a school yearbook and practising seeing good qualities, like, her hair is really nice in that picture, or his teeth are really straight, etc.
also try to imagine what ppl are like as a person, not what tey look like
2007-02-27 13:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by DrummerGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do the same, just be careful not to say what you think out loud. I did to my boss not good.
2007-02-27 13:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rambo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋