If your ex owed you a substantial amount of back child support, and you are both remarried, and you and your spouse make more money than the ex and his/her spouse, and you are doing all right, but them having to pay would put them deeper in debt than they already are, would you sue just on principal, or would you just let him/her off the hook?
2007-02-27 13:18:17 · 16 answers · asked by kitten lover3 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The kids are 20, 18, and almost 15. I only have the 18-year-old at home. The oldest has moved out and the youngest lives with his dad, the ex in question.
2007-02-27 13:25:51 · update #1
First criteria would be "what is best for the kids". The second would be dependant upon your philosophy in life. If you can forgive your debts, you are definitely the 'bigger' person.
Do unto others as you would that they do unto you
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2007-02-27 13:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by yutu34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make them pay the back support if you know they really can't afford it and if you're doing just fine without it. But I would expect even a small amount (100 a month) to show that they're making an effort and are acknowledging the fact that their kids exist. But you already are doing better without him, I would just let it be. If the kids are well taken care of and you don't need the help then it's kind of selfish to expect anything more from someone you already know is struggling and couldn't pay it even if you did sue them. Kind of pointless I think. Wait, you only have one of the kids and he's 18? Then sorry but no, you don't deserve anything. Support is only until the child turns 18. And he has one also. He doesn't have to pay you anything.
2007-02-27 21:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well you don't have any under age (under 18) kids with you and he has the 15 year old. I would let him off the hook. He needs to have money to take care of the 15 year old after all.
At least for now. If the 15 year old moves back then make him pay support while you have the kid. If you go after him and he loses everything and ends up homeless or something like that your children may hold it against you.
2007-02-28 14:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would let her go!... As long as I was doing ok, And the kids were OK... Let it go.
By attacking the Ex, It ends up putting the kids in stressful situations when both of you have to be at the kids events.
Just tell the Ex. you expect the $, but will give the Ex. time to get back on thier feet. Just tell the Ex. to do what they can. I think you would be amazed.
2007-02-27 21:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie Monster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to get the money. If you don't need it put it away for your kids they may some day. It is the responsibility of both parents to support their children. It shouldn't matter who makes more money. The support is for the children! If it puts the ex in a bind then he/she should get another job if they have to. The children were his/her responsibility before getting married again and making new debts. People need to be held accountable
2007-02-27 21:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wanted to be a total shrew I could sue for the back support, but even though the ex isn't paying anymore he/she should 100% still be in the child's life
2007-02-27 21:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by starikotasukinomiko 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were truly hurting, and I didn't need the money, I would let him slide. But only if I didn't need it. If I saw that needless spending was going on, and he was just blowing off his child support, then I would make him pay in a heartbeat. Maybe, let him know he was getting a break and as soon as he gets it together, he can start making payments again.
2007-02-27 21:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Zoey ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...that's a tough question. Thankfully I never had kids with my ex, so we don't have that problem. I guess it depends on if you're really over all of it or not. If you're not hurting for money, there's really no point in making them go further into debt. Unless he starts abusing that trust, and then you should let him have it.
2007-02-27 21:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by gigagiggle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sometimes depends on the state in which you /they live, and also what was already in place for custody agreements.
To ME, it would depend on how great of a father-figure the ex was, and I'd base my actions on HIS actions to date.
2007-02-27 21:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by The Gal w/the Camera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it go, but I would make him take the kids EVERY saturday night so I could go out with my husband
2007-02-27 21:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by RIVER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋