ever since a big incident on new years, my brother has been having temper issues. he and my parents get into a loud, and i mean loud argument, every night. i cant take it anymore. i cant stand hearing people shouting every night at my house. and when im in his room playin games, then he comes in and is like, f them all im gonna kill them. he already has to big holes in his wall from punching it. i seriously am goin to go crazy if this continues til he goes to college. what do i do
2007-02-27 13:12:35 · 7 answers · asked by ownby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From the question it seems like you are more mature than your brother. See if your family will sit down and all of you discuss the problem and YOU explain to them how their arguing bothers you. Let your parents understand you know they pay the bills, but the three of them are driving you nuts. It is time for the problems to be put on the table and discussed. No, they will not be solved, but let them know the sane one of the family is going crazy over the fact they have no consideration for you. Suggest help from another source if needed
2007-02-27 13:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by CommonSense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. My parents used to fight then when they divorced I would 'get into it' with my mom but it was not a daily occurence.
The first thing you should do is talk to your parents about it; letting them know you are concerned and want to help; doing the same for your brother maybe outside the house.
Shoot basketball or do something physical even if it is just going for a walk with him. Make it clear to him that even joking about physically harming your parents is out of the question and should not be accepted in any form.
If he is 16+ remind him that he only has a few years until he can move out but that your parents, most likely, love him and argue with him because they care. It sounds like they, nor your brother, know how to show that love or concern without raising their voices.
If talking with both of them does not help then seek another adult, counselor, or teacher who is closer to the situation and that you trust and ask their advice.
Praying about it definitely helps (at a quite time while they are not fighting, simply close yours eyes and ask God for guidance! Ask Him what you can do, what you should do to help the situation.)
You live there too, so you have the right to an opinion and to voice that opinion.
God be with you!
Maxbps
2007-02-27 13:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's too bad that you are having to deal with this...it is hard, but you are far from alone...be there for your brother as he is having a difficult time...do you know why he is having such a hard time? If you can understand this, it will get better...this is just a bump in the road....Your brother is dealing with a lot of different issues, including, girls, school, college...and he is feeling the pressure...Let your parents know the yelling and screaming really upsets you...
2007-02-27 13:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all families have problems, teenagers are so hard to raise. I think when it gets out of control we need help. Your brother, your parents, you or everyone together could get counciling. Some people dont like that word but it usually works.
2007-02-27 13:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brown Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like they could use some counseling,it may be no good to let him know your're tired of hearing the arguments,talk to your parents and maybe yal resolve something.
2007-02-27 14:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediately find some weed to calm him down, like to get him high and cool...
2007-02-27 13:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by Disabled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has wore out his welcome he needs to move on
2007-02-27 13:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋