she ingnored me for 17 years! i'll never forget the day when i just started middle school no one picked me up. i moved out at 16 my mom wanted to move away i said no now when im 18 she comes to my (which she's paying for)while im kissing this guy for da first time we were in da pool and i had my shirt off and she comes in and hse hasnt seen me or even called for 2 years aand she comes in and says sorry i tell him who she is i got out and told her to leave and she said no and she loves me and she wants to act lik a family now i slap her and show her to da door
she deserved it.....right?
2007-02-27 13:08:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i was a huge accedient she had me when she was 15
2007-02-27 13:28:11 · update #1
oull be sorry later i life
2007-02-27 13:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily.
she might have really wanted to reconcile with you and be closer to you. sure, she should have done it sooner, but since you've obviously had some problems in the past she might have been afraid to go up to you (can't blame her, seeing as how you slapped her, right?) or was trying to put off an awkward situation. Maybe that wasn't right on her part, but it's sure understandable. Parents are people too - they make mistakes and do silly things and don't know how to solve problems right. And if she's paying for stuff for you, you should be grateful for that, by the way.
I wouldn't harp on the fact that you were an accident, by the way, doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Also think about what a more difficult life she must have had than a lot of people (prolly including YOU) having to raise a daughter at fifteen!
Give your mom a second chance if she tries to reconcile with you again. You don't need to be best friends or even love each other, but you could at least be civil and maybe you could work out your differences, and eventually perhaps confront issues from when you were younger. Maybe you should even apologize to her for slapping her?
2007-02-27 21:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were upset but very clear ... it's a big mistake
Your mom doesn't deserve it even if she isn't the one who pays for you.
Be sure you'll have the same slap one day and you'll cry as you never cried. Instead of the inner self blaming that you have now. The best is to find her and tell her you didn't know what you were doing and so ... if you just go to her, she will forgive you anyway.
When you find how can she forgive you simply, you'll understand what's a mom.
If you didn't ask her and ask god to forgive you, expect your future life to be miserable.
2007-02-28 04:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were wrong to slap her , after all she may have left , but if she did not love you she would never have paid for you a place to live , and yes if she is paying for the house or apartment , ((you left that part out )) then you can not make her leave she is paying for it then it is her house... she has to live with her wrong doing ,,and now so do you ....the attitude you are presenting may explain why she did what she did as you seem not to have any respect for her or yourself ,
2007-02-27 21:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be like that. I lost a parent. Regardless of how much you disagree, try to respect her. She will learn eventually. No one deserves that. It may have made you felt good but you obviously have worries about what was right and wrong...so that shows you care, it felt wrong after-in a way, and the such. Apologize (whether you want to or not) and move on
2007-02-27 21:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to agree with everyone. You were wrong to do it. You only have one mom and one dad in your lifetime, so make sure you don't spend your time regretting something you've done. Granted no one has the model TV show parents, but they're there for you.
How would you feel if you had a daughter and she did that to you?
2007-02-27 21:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Scarlet Begonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing??? --NO!!
Did she deserve it??? --NO!!
No one ever deserves to be physically abused by anyone! Maybe you need to go seek help for anger management. Maybe she'll file charges on you for assault. Maybe you should just grow up!!!
Not everyone has a happy Leave it to Beaver kind of childhood. But those of us who are smart about it - learn from the mistakes that others made and better ourselves for it!! You've just reduced yourself to her level and with the hatred that you've expressed here for her, I'd say you're right on target to becoming the same kind of person she is unless you act now and change your outlook!!!
2007-02-27 23:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by momto3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom was very young when she had you, but not an accident. If it was an accident, then she would not have had you, I think. Being a mom at any age is tough. I don't condon that you slapped her, but I don't blame you either. You are angry and justifably so. It does sound like you regret what you have done. Try to contact her and talk to her, we don't choose our parents, but we should at least make peace with them before it's too late.
Good luck to you!
2007-02-27 22:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have desired it,but you shouldn't have put your hand on her! she's still the woman who gave birth to you and deserves respect.Believe me I know! I gave my mom holy H when I was younger and said and did alot of nasty things to her,but I grew up,and she died 3 years ago and now I can't make it up to her.You don't know how much a mother means to you untill you lose yours. Make peace now before it's too late! Good luck to you.
2007-02-27 21:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by margiefaye4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be angry but you don't have the right to slap her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are extremely disrespectful!
Give it some time, have some conversations with her, ask some questions and you'll see things differently.
Like it or not - she is your mother! You need answers - not show violence towards her!
2007-02-28 00:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some time in our life we have something horrible ...like we have parents but they dont care about us in whole life...and that thing really bothers...which make us to think that its better for us to live without parents..and we dont even care and respect about them...
in ur situation i feel the same situation which i mention above...but if u react like ur mom then what will be the difference between u and her....and what will u going answer to God ...when he ask u about this...???
just think about this...caz she is the mother no matter she cares about u or not...but gives u life...
so just rethink about ur behaviour to her...
Take Care
2007-02-28 00:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by Good Wisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋