Are there any other moms out there with controling husbands and as a result have no life other than a bucket of hopes and dreams that keep spilling over onto the dam floor!
2007-02-27 13:08:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife is controlling
but I don't blame her for destroying my hopes and dreams
2007-02-27 13:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by curious george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not a mom or anything (im 14 year old male) but if your husband is controlling and dosent let you have a life of your own then something is wrong.. you should both be able to go out, just not all the time wherever because that could lead to one person thinkin the other one is cheating. But you should still be able to go out because if he loves you then he can trust you to go out with your girlfriends for a couple hours. AND a husband/wife should help one another with their dreams.
2007-02-27 13:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by luvtheramz81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is very controlling. people will tell you to leave but it is not that easy. I have found that when things are going good and i think that maybe it is not that bad, i step back and look and it is because i am minding and not bucking the system. I get up every morning and pretend that i am someone else so that he is secure. Inside i have lots of dreams and believe i can do them. But any hint of that surfacing makes him flip out and he does what he has to to stop them
2007-02-27 13:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of. But, now he is my ex. People that are controlling are usually very insecure people who were probably raised by a domineering mother/father or someone who acted like they just didn't care about them or wasn't very nurturing. What kind of relationship with his parents does he have? Or his siblings? Those are all keys to why he is the way he is. He needs to seek a therapist desperately. And, you need to find yourself and figure out why you put up with such crap.
2007-02-27 13:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling as in having to stay home and take care of the children all the time? No, I am not in that kind of situation. My husband likes me to go out and have a good time. I do not take advantage of it, but he is always more than willing to help me out in any way...considering it is his child too.
2007-02-27 13:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by seeso 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was not only too controlling but sick with jealousy , accusing arguing all the time just to mention a few of his bad habits and drinking all the time besides. Fourty years later we devorced. OH Happy Day...............bettyk
2007-02-27 13:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by elisayn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband only likes to do what he likes to do. Its a strange thing because he comes across like he's not controlling at all.....but its a passive aggressive thing where he tells me one thing and does another. He has a charming underdog quality that makes ya think poor thing....but truth is, he only puts effort into things that directly benefit him. Its made me nearly crazy....for the first 10 yrs I helped make the excuses for him...he works so hard, he got laid off, he didn't feel well.....but at the 10 year mark I started to realize I never get anything I want...not one vacation, one birthday present, one night out....that wasn't something he was already doing....so if he's on his way to the coffee shop, he'd take me along but if I said I wanted to go, he'd have an excuse....I know how that sounds....the next five years I had g/fs who said keep him...the things you do together are nice, he works, he this he that....and I thought I'll go back to school, get my degree work on me....and as usual he continued to do whatever he wanted to do.....went so far as to say he wouldn't "babysit" our kids while I was in night school because he didn't see any reason for it......and he slips in the digs...you'll never finish, nothing is good enough for you, you are not making enough money, you are never here, all no win situations... I have quit my job, changed my career and my hours, finished my masters degree, worked two jobs, raised two kids, begged, cried, made my own reservations, created celebrations, celebrated him, done for him the sorts of things I would want done for me (buying flowers, taking him to dinner) and nothing has ever been reciprocated...when I try to have the conversation he points to times I got to tag along on business trips, conventions for committees he is on, events for the kids (like amusement parks and such).....now I am so unsure of myself....its like a glass house. Its all I know.....and the hope that he will pay me the littlest bit of attention hasn't gone....he throws me crumbs and I get convinced that we will be fine and start making grand dinners and waiting on him...and the cycle repeats.... I keep on until I am exhausted.....my birthday is in two days...its a big un...in February he promised me a trip for a weekend...(we never had a honeymoon and I have been asking for a trip away for a weekend without kids for 23 yrs)......I have stopped making excuses....and trying to accept what is.....and it hurts like hell. At the same time, he goes to work, he pays his part of the bills (thats how he set it up) and he has a predictable schedule...I know where he is and if I want to have coffee I can go to Tim Hortons on tuesdays...... my life isn't as bad as many.... so I talk myself into staying.... cause maybe next time will be different.... I let you know in 2 days...happy b-day to me.
2007-02-27 14:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom who is very happy in my marriage and not my husband is not controlling at all. I guess i am very lucky and fortunate to have the wonderful husband and marriage that i have.
2007-02-27 13:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's interior the KKK. verify his closet for a a White Pointed Hat or pink Dragon uniform. i wish you do not plan on having youthful ones because wager who their going to look as a lot as? His perspectives are affecting your life, i do not study you, yet some thing is poor incorrect with that. you want to develop his horizons. Introduce him to variety. that is marriage, you ought to study from one yet another. If he remains resistant, then you should guage distancing your self for a lengthy time period.
2016-12-05 01:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my father is and i know how it feels. i saw that and i never wanted to marry a person like him and it seems like god answe my prayers cuz my husband is the opposite of him. my mother has to still deal with him.
2007-02-27 13:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋