I have a best friend and her name is "Art" (her nickname) and I care about her sooooo much, we treat eachother like sisters. Well lately she's been telling me about her and her mom, they've been having problems since a very long time ago...but it seems to be very very bad now. When Art goes to school, she's not the same happy person that I've known...she looks depressed. She tells me everything...I mean everysingle detail that happens (she calls me her diary : ) This morning she wrote something in a spiral notebook...it was a letter to God, and she showed it to me. She said she has asked him for help...and he has never answered her prayers. She comes home, gets hit, then yelled at. After I read the spiral notebook...I burst out in tears! I don't know what to do to help her, she's the only person in my life that helped me when I had problems...now it's my turn! but i'm speechless. I mean...I can't go in and argue with her mom..(even though I feel like it). What do i say or do?
2007-02-27 13:04:53 · 11 answers · asked by YYYpunk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well i kinda had the same problem with a friend of mine. The best advice i can give you is to pray for your friend. Make her feel special and go out with her more often so that she wont feel as bad. You should smile a lot when you are with her because its contagious. you could also tell her to pray for her mom or maybe even take her mom to church because it can really change a person. You dont really know what is going on in the mother's life right now so we cant really assume that she is a bad person.
2007-03-02 10:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by L3monDr0p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure to be there to support her. She's obviously very emotional and needs your support.
And I know it sounds like it would be horrible but try talking to a school counselor, teacher or responsible adult. Maybe they can reason with her mom or help Art or something. But I don't recommend letting the mom know at first and make sure to express each important detail about what's happening when you talk to the adult (like what happened before the beating and the fact that you don't want to let it get out (unless you do) and things like that).
2007-02-27 21:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents about it and ask them if they can talk to her mom. Maybe your parents can set up some sort of counciling for Art and her mother, to figure out their problems and what went wrong in their mother-daughter relationship. And tell Art to keep praying....god makes everything happen for a reason, tell her that, but most importantly.....tell her, Everything will be ok." Good Luck!
2007-02-27 21:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hillary B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COmfort her at contact the authorities. Also, yous should tell your parents about this, an let her stay over alot. Treat her even more like a sister, and tell her your alsways there for her.
2007-02-27 21:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her and figure out why her mom hits her. I feel very sad for your friend. Does her mom drink or anything.
2007-02-27 21:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! That is horrible, poor girl. You should tell YOUR mom and she will take care of it. You should tell the authorities. Why does her mom do this to her? I mean if you don't tell someone and keep it quiet she might get beaten soo bad she might get killed or who knows. So, right when you read this answer I am giving you, go ahead and tell your mom and take care of it. PLEASE DON'T KEEP IT QUIET, PLEASE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. DON'T LET YOUR FRIEND SUFFER LIKE THIS.
2007-02-27 21:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
annonymously give her name to the school counselor. They don't have to say you said anything they'll just see if they can see what's up I know when this happened to my friend and I said something the counselor said "your teachers just don't think you look to happy is everything ok?" Luckily she opened up
2007-02-27 21:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is truly the desire of your friend Art...call CPS they are required to investigate. Tell your parents for back up. Maybe offer her a place to stay if need be.
2007-02-27 21:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by macsmom33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart what does your heart tell you to do for her?Think know what you want to do for her and go for it. As long as you are there for her she has all the help she needs.
2007-02-27 21:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need help from some one older maybee a school counselor but your freind cant go on anymore like that please have her get help you could go with her for support
2007-02-27 21:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋