this is a question 4rm me but i want answers to help my cuzin she is going thru a bad time rite now the guy she pratically loves is going out w/ another girl and she is real sad how do i get her to get over him?
she is 12 and before u say she is too yung to date forget bout it she has gone out w/ 2 other guys so she don't care so don't say that plz
2007-02-27 12:52:38 · 15 answers · asked by short stuff 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
btw she went out w/ him they broke up last week on wednsday
2007-02-27 13:15:34 · update #1
Honey i dont really know how to make her feel better. Shes sooo young & has a whole life ahead of her. She will definatly end up forgetting about him. Its always hard at first when you break up especially when another girl is involved. It makes you feel like you arent good enough, believe me i know from experience. MY last boyfriend left me for another girl when i was 4 onths pregnant, 2 days after he left i was told my baby had no heartbeat. That was 16months ago. It hurt but tell your cuzin that its better he left now rather than later when it would hurt more. Its his loss, not hers. Shes really young & i hope she focuses more on school than anything. Boyriends come & go. Good luck.
2007-02-27 13:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing she can do is do other things. don't let there be time to dwell on what can not be.get a hobby, watch t.v., get some chic flic movies, go jogging, stay busy so you dont focus on what bothers you(her). and as time goes by, she will find he isn't really as wonderful(or important) as she thought. At this age, the pass quickly. I am not trying to belittle her feelings, I still remember who I loved at 12 and I am 26. If I saw him tomorrow, I would still be rather shy. Those feelings never go away, but time passes and new people will come into your life. Get out there and meet them!
2007-02-27 13:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by hottimommi01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her spend the night and watch funny movies, NOT romantic movies, anything but those. Ooo I forgot get Under THe Tuscan Sun it is a good break up movie, it makes you realize you're better off. Also Buy lots of icecream (try starbucks icecream) and candy, pizza, chineese, junk food ya know, And tell her how much you care about her and how you wish you could make her feel better, but explain to her she is only 12 and she will keep finding boys. Goodluck
2007-02-27 13:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i think you will get more answers in the "singles and dating" under the "family and friends" section
Second of all its not "real bad"
tell the girl, i think it would hurt more to find out than to be told. but she might get mad at the messenger (maybe not never know.)
Best of luck.
By the way, 12 is very young, im sure there plenty more guys that
wont cheat on her that she can fall in love with.
2007-02-27 12:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did she go out with him. A week? Ok...2 weeks. My daughter tells me about how this boy/girl grade school thing works with their little relationships. You kids switch boyfriends and girlfriends like changing your underwear. It's retarded. Just be her friend and go to the movies with her or something. Soon, ol Johnny will walk by and she'll forget all about the love of her life. And then after Johnny it'll be Frankie and then it'll be Tommy, etc. It just goes on and on. And all this in a month's time.
2007-02-27 13:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. She's going to be sad more if she has nothing to do. Keep her busy and support her. People say out of sight out of mind, so just be her back bone when it's hard on her. And let her know that time heals all wounds...she will get better and she will be that cousin your use to but she needs time to heal. Tell your cousin I'm sorry and take care
2007-02-27 15:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by **Shan** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her parents need a whipping .... she needs to stop falling in love with everyone she dates , she is 12 she knows nothing about love so how can she fall in it ,, I would be more concerned about her dating at 12 , you can not heal a so called broken heart for her ..why do you think 12 is too young ..they can not handle the emotional side of a relationship , tell her to stop going with boys until she can handle her emotions better , because if she thinks it hurts now ...just wait it gets worse later on in life ......
2007-02-27 13:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't change my opinions, but I will tell you that this will pass, the best way to help her get over this is just to be with her, let her talk about it, and encourage her to talk with other people.
She is very young and there is no reason why she should not find someone else.
2007-02-27 13:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, show her a lot of other hot guys (or whatever floats her boat). Talk with her, give her the latest gossip. Hang out. If that doesn't work, work up your own dilemma, so that she'll forget about hers and start worrying about yours.
Or she could always break them up...
Plus, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I doubt that they are 'soulmates'.
2007-02-27 13:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by bookworm11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with her, have all girl friends over and have a good time. Eat food, watch movies, listen to music, play games, do what little girls are supposed to be doing.
2007-02-27 12:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by !!joinCampaignforLiberty!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋