Sex or no sex?

Question

Ok, the deal is that I'm 15 (I know pretty young). But I've really been talking alot about sex with my girlfriend and I have no idea what to do. I mean I've had her as a girlfriend for quite some time (about a year and a half). and I don't know what to think. I know she's a virgin and so am I. I've done my research and know quite alot, and she's taken real interest in it. but I just don't know what to think. I know there's no risk (as for std) other than pregnancy I'm just not sure what to think of it.

Ok, the deal is that I'm 15 (I know pretty young). But I've really been talking alot about sex with my girlfriend and I have no idea what to do. I mean I've had her as a girlfriend for quite some time (about a year and a half). and I don't know what to think. I know she's a virgin and so am I. I've done my research and know quite alot, and she's taken real interest in it. but I just don't know what to think. I know there's no risk (as for std) other than pregnancy I'm just not sure what to think of it. sorry i didn't go over this but yes we've both been tested. clean all the way. and I've done about about enough research to write a 1000 page report.

Answer 1

Don't be a fool wrap your tool
Having gotten that outta the way, you guys need to set down and talk about the pros and cons of going all the way.
If the two of you can't set down like adults to talk about it then your not adult enough to do it.

Answer 2

All well and good, but you aren't ready emotionally for sex. There are other risks than pregnancy (which you blow off so casually) and STDs. If you're too young, your first experience can mess you up pretty seriously. Read the responses from the ones who regretted having sex too young (admittedly all from girls--boys will never admit that they made a mistake of any kind).

There's really no rush, guy. Best bet: wait until you're both safely out of high school, so you can go to work and support a baby (if you've done your research, then you know there's no way to guarantee she won't get pregnant).

Answer 3

there's plenty of risk. are you two really in love with each other, or this is just something that you two are doing? and no you don't "know" anything about the other person short of what they're telling you, so STD is a real risk, whether or not you protect yourself in that way. if it's your first time you shouldn't assume anything. what happens if the relationship doesn't work out, and you two are stuck regretting that you didn't hold out for a better relationship you're in later, and that relationship is impacted because you lost it to each other, or she lost it to you it's unsure if you're a virgin or not i don't know. at 15 you can't honestly say that you'll stick around, that you won't get bored with her somewhere down the line you can't say anything definitively unless you've been in a few situations where it didn't work out and you found a way to cope with that. people's emotions and feelings change, particularly when things become physical. for a while after that this is what the relationship is going to be about, whether you want it to or not. i was 25 when i lost mine, broke up about 3 months later, hated it. wanted to keep with that even though she didn't want a relationship with me it was very humiliating; i mean we're back together now, but you would think at that age things would be different and i wouldn't have had to deal with that. then i ended up on the wrong side of the tracks and got hurt again. i love her, but once you've done that, it's easy to compromise your relationships for something different if you two are doing the same old and neither of you are trying to make it interesting again. it's best to be married, ideally, but if you're as old as i was or older you know stuff happens; but it's always a big deal, if you're 15 or you're 70 ...

Answer 4

Hey don't be in any hurry just enjoy being young and care free, she might be getting all frisky because she might think you want it and will break up with her if she doesn't. Talk to her about it, (if you can't talk about it then you shouldn't be doing it.)
If you do decide to start having sex my advice is to still use protection as you might not have an STD but having a baby is a high possibility even if your girlfriend is on the pill she only has to make a mistake and not take it once and congratulations you are 15 and a father, NOT COOL.

Answer 5

the only way you know that you are not at risk for getting an STD is if yall got tested just because someone hasnt had sex before dosnt mean they dont have an STD they can get them from there mom while during birth, or blood transfusions and some others ways such as mutual masterbation. if you are christian then you arent sapposed to have sex till marriage along with alot of other religions so thinks about how your parents would think of you if you got caught or she got pregnaunt and how life would be if you had a child most people have to quit school and get a job so does the maybe couple of minuetes of pleasure outway the risks of having a baby at 15 and screwing your life over at such a young age? dont worry kid i am 15 also so yeah. i would say dont do it but your choice

Answer 6

At 15 while you may think you know a lot, but actually knowing a lot comes from experiencing it for real - no book, movie or conversation can prepare you for the reality. Aside from "just pregnancy" there are so many STD's - and some like herpes that you can get from just skin contact - NASTY!!! And there is no cure for it. Your virginity is nothing to be ashamed of - but once it's gone it's gone. Forever. You can't wish it back. Just because your body is capable of having sex doesn't mean you are mentally prepared. Teenage boys act like they are "driven" by their hormones - testosterone - and by driven I mean driven to try to have sex. They think about it, talk about it, and given the opportunity - will try it if someone will let them. Not all boys, but many...Girls have a bigger struggle with it than most boys. If you are having this much of a struggle thinking about the decision to have or not have sex - then you are probably not ready.

Answer 7

first of all how do u know she is a virgin?, if u had sex would u tell ur partner that u are not a virgin? think about it, there are alot of STD's out there that even the person that is infected with it does not know that they have it. it is really risky at your age and it is actually illegal to have sex until u are 18. or she might get pregnant and you might end ur life right there and then, dont do anything that u will regret in the future, do more research and think abou it real good, hope this helps.

Answer 8

True, It is illegal to have sex before you're 18, but who actually follows that rule? That's why they don't really enforce it.

Thinking about what you just said, are you really ready for that risk/risks? I mean, sure, research tells you quite a bit about SOMEONE else's experience, but that doesn't mean will be the same for you. And some research isn't facts, keep that in mind.

I can't stop you, but you need to think wisely about this before making some serious choices.

Of there are doubts in your mind thta means you're not exactly ready. So take your time, You've got plently of it.

Answer 9

If you have any doubts about it then you shouldn't do it. If you don't have any doubts about it and neither does she and you both are sure that after you do this it won't change things and make things more complicated since you are younger and you both want to be each others first then go for it. (not that i think people should do it until they are at least 18) but if you two believe your in love its your decision you just need to think about what happens if she gets pregnant..are you ready for that kind of committment? Just be sure and don't do it unless you both are 100% sure because you don't want to regret it!

Answer 10

Wow. Well, I was 16 my first time, and all I can say is I wish I had waited just a couple of years. I met my husband when I was 18 and have always regretted that he wasn't my first. I think you're a bit too young - stick to foreplay stuff - it's the smartest thing.