I have had this problem since as long as I can remember. When people first meet me they don't like me. They usually don't even say a word to me to have anything to base their dislike on. I am extremely shy so I can't just go up to people and start a conversation so I am assuming they take my shyness as snobiness? We can go to parties and I am the one all by myself with no one to talk to. I am almost 30 and I look like I am about 16. I get asked what grade I am in a lot. LOL I have 2 kids, so when we go to functions with them, it is almost a relief because at least I have them to hang out with. What can I do to be more outgoing and get people to talk to me? It is usually the women that ignore me. Men are usually pretty friendly. But women are a different story. Once they actually get to know me we end up being good friends, but since we are a military family we move around a lot and so we have to keep meeting new people. It's not an easy thing.
2007-02-27 12:40:43 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HEHEH, I have this problem too!! I look like I`m 18 and I`m 30!! I just had to come out of my shell and find something interesting to talk about!! I always talk about my hobbies and kids!! Of your hanging around a group of people who have kids, it`s always funny when you talk about the nasty things they did when they were toddlers!! My son stuck his head in the toilet and tried to wash his hair!!!!He also threw my cellphone in the toilet and FLUSHED!!!You usually have people`s attention after retelling a story like that!! I would comment that there were " Strange" ringing sounds in my backyard for a few days!! I`m not kidding, it was my cellphone ringing in the septic tank!! I called Bell Canada to tell them that I WANTED THE EXACT PHONE AGAIN, ( it was so durable)!!!
2007-02-27 12:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend used to have your exact problem, except she doesn't look half her age, like you do. People used to tell her to be more outgoing, but she is shy and that isn't going to happen. So she has totally made up her mind that a few close friends are way more valuable than the opinion of the others.
Most people don't want to be the first to talk anyway. Not because they are shy, but because they are afraid of rejection.
I glad some people take the time to get to know you, as for the rest, guess that's just their loss.
2007-02-27 20:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by annigoodhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extroverted people often mislabel shyness and snobbishness. But the truth is, they don't know how to deal with people who are unlike them. Besides this, women these days are less friendly and not as readily seek new things outside their comfort zone. The average woman in the U.S. will have 2 or 3 "real" friends and a bunch of acquiantances that they can hardly depend on. This is partly due to the fact that they stick to their own lives. I need more female friends, but I'm not going to try around here. And at least I have my sister, with whom I live.
2007-02-27 20:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by filia_san 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy task but you need to bring up your self esteem. Our self attitudes sub consciously project to those around us and people react to it. you need to carry yourself like you are the center of the universe. Try to have conversational topics ready for use..good sources are things like the Learning channel and Discovery.. Once you start a conversation be ready to inject interesting subjects. Make statements that display your intelligence and sense of humor..keep yourself interesting and people Will be more interested in you..That's my take on it it least..
2007-02-27 20:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Joey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jennifer,
Be patience,you will find your
good friends in due time,human beings are
always cautious about friendship in long term.
All the best 2 u.bye
2007-02-27 20:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by nelson p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they just dont know u ,and being shy dosent help..sometimes people mistake shyness as being stuck up or self centered which is not true,,gl i like u
2007-02-27 20:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your shyness is being seen as insecurities...some people just don't want to get involved into all of that...
2007-02-27 20:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem.im not little though,but i look young.im so use to it now it dont bother me no more.people say i look too mean to talk to.but once they get to know me we become great friends.
2007-02-27 20:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by krazygirl30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes me either...not for 3 years, and im still eleven.. Its all 4 no reason too...
2007-02-27 20:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, just hang out with the guy's, they're funner anyway, as long as you don't end up getting "crushes" on them i'm sure you'll be fine.
2007-02-27 20:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋