i am freaking!!?

Question

i am 36 weeks pregangnt and i am freaking out about giving birth!!! i have no idea what to expect and i keep on hearing all these stories from people and it is just making things worse!! i cant handle pain very well and i am deathly scared of needles and the more time i am pregnant the more i keep thinking about it and the more i keep freaking myself out!! i am too scared to do this!! i just wish it would be over with so i dont have this fear insidde me i am kinda stressing about it. i am just worried. any suggestions on how to stop worrying?? yea yea i know it will be fine but seriously i cry because i am too scared to do this i cant wait for my son to be here but the process just freaks me out. what if something goes wrong?? did ne one else feel like this?? help please!!!!

Answer 1

Oh! You are going to be okay. I seriously do not understand why women feel they need to tell us pregnant women their birth horror stories. Really! Its just rude if you think about it. Everyone is different. No one can say for sure how your birthing experience is going to go. I am pregnant for the third time. The first one was a breeze, seriously, a breeze, I had no epidural, no drugs, nothing. The second one did not go as well but I wont get into that war story. I can only hope for the best with this one! The one thing I can tell you, is that just try to remember that essentially, birth is really over very quickly. Think that you have been carrying this child for 9 months and that is a long time, so a few hours of labor is going to go by quickly compared to all that and it will all be over with. Once you have your baby, you will forget all about labor, it will become a distant memory very very quickly! And whatever you go through, it will all be worth it. The time and energy you are spending stressing isnt worth it in the end. Relax and try to enjoy your next couple of weeks of quite time, don't worry about the small stuff like that. Your life is about to change in a wonderful way, try to focus on that. Good luck to you! Everything will be fine.

Answer 2

I know what you mean... I am a HUGE wimp when it comes to pain... least I think so.....

now that I told you that? I should tell you... I am the mother of SIX children! I have been pregnant seven times... I miscarried twins... I think that was more painful than having my most recent baby, he is a year now and I was not there in time for meds.... they do not do epiderals up here where Imoved to.... I can't say the other five were easy.... I had epiderals sure, but the needles... they hurt too.....

know what though? I would do it over and over.... for the joy, the wonder of these children of mine..... with no meds....

what I remember the most is not the holding afterwards "making the pain vanish" naw... it does kind of make it all fade.... what I remember though is that I realized the pain was worse because I dwelled on it before labor..... only natural right... and theninstead of remembering to breath.... I panicked..... how's that for smarts.....lol..... I am not saying you won't feel any pain if you do not panic... but it won't be as bad..... and if you remember that your mom, my mom, their mother's, and mother's mother's all thru the ages have done this (or we would not be here to do it too right) and they had little or no help... my mom was born at home no dr...... no meds really either..... if they can... so can we.... so can you... you are stronger than you know.... give yourself a chance to show you..... :)

Answer 3

Listen. Women were BUILT to do this. You were built to be able to do this. Everyone gets a little scared. Believe me, the anticipation is much more intense than the actual event. Nothing's going to go wrong. There's a risk, but that's the case with everything you do in life - drive a car, ride in an airplane...And I'm sure you realize this, but the calmer you are, the less painful or scary your experience is likely to be. It is really not that hard, I promise. Just breathe, focus on something that calms you, bring a picture you like or a stuffed animal or something to hospital with you, and of course if you have a supportive husband that always helps. It hurts, but it doesn't hurt THAT bad. Don't listen to anyone's stories unless they are positive. Going into it with fear and anxiety will only make it worse. This is going to be the coolest thing you have ever done. You're going to love it. And once you see that baby boy, you won't even remember the labor and delivery. He'll be the love of your life. You can do this. And you are going to be so proud of yourself afterwards. Just think..what will you have left to be scared of after this? Once you've given birth, you can do anything.Good luck.

Answer 4

OK serioulsy, I am a big big sissy when it comes to pain. The littlest pain makes me cry. Just keep telling yourself its all for you baby that will be here shortly. Just breath, do anything to keep your mind sane. Also dont be afraid of needles, and don't try and be wonder women and not get an epidural. Those things ROCK!! And if they do it during a contraction you will never tell they did it. Seriously just think of it as it all for a good thing, the more you stress the worse it could be, You will do fine. Good luck and congrats!!

Answer 5

to tell you the truth, it's an awesome experience and i know you're gonna do great. for me i was induced at 37 weeks and because the pain was so bad i asked for the epidural at 7 centimeters. after that everything was amazing (for me anyways...) you hear tons of horror stories and not enough good ones. just remember that there is pain meds available for you and the doctors are there to help you and keep you and your baby safe, there's nothing to worry about. it does hurt but the second your baby is out there is no more pain and you can't even remember what it felt like. good luck and just remember that women have been doing this for a very, very long time!!! congrats!!!

Answer 6

You only have 4 weeks to go!! I have given birth to 3 children, 1 with no pain meds. The most important thing that I learned is that you must relax completely while your having a contraction. If that means that you have to have the lights down and complete silence then so be it. Contractions are the painful part of labor and delivery. My suggestion is to visit with a NP or take a crash course birthing class, preferably instructed by a nurse midwife. They can help you discover different things that help you relax.

Answer 7

Hon the only thing that's going wrong is that you are freaking out.

Try and distract yourself, people love to tell horror stories to shock you, it's very rare for anything to happen.

Listen to soothing music, think positive thoughts, get a massage or footrub, pamper yourself.

I had my two babies without any meds and so did all my friends and it didn't hurt that much worse than a really bad period or having the dry heaves for several hours (uncomfortable but far from intolerable).

And remember if things were that bad, then no one would ever have a baby and the human race would have died out ;)

Answer 8

I was induced and delivered my twins early at 33 weeks, so didn't really have much time to freak out. But ya, when they told me that morning that they were going to induce me and I'd be having them the next day, I had a bit of a meltdown.
Don't know what to tell you, just have someone that's very comforting and soothing in the room with you, or to talk to you now! I mean, ya it's painful, but it's over soon enough.

Answer 9

You'll do better than you expect. I was scared with my 1st one too. I've had 4 natural births.....and I'm expecting in Sept. If the pain is unbearable to you....don't try to be a warrior....get something for pain like something in your IV since it'll already be in you. Or the Epidural if you feel really bad. I've heard you don't feel anything with that.

Answer 10

The only thing that I keep telling myself is that it's one day of your whole life, and look what you get at the end. I know I'm going to be in your situation in about 13 weeks. It's really scary I know but it's been done trillions of times, and everyone else made it through. I'm sure we all can too. Best of luck to you!