about a week i lost my virginity , i'm 29 , but we didn t make well, i feel i litle bad about this , i don't know if is normal , but my boyfriend a boy with experience , and h e doesn t talk about this issue, what can i do?
2007-02-27 12:12:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no offense but u r old enough to lose your virginity.... I think he used you and now he is just waiting to dump you....
2007-03-07 01:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man you lost your virginity to and I use the word loosely knew you were a virgin and that he was to be your first then he should have made the occasion very special for you and made sure that you were comfortable with what was going on.
He should have talked to you, during, well, I was going to say love making but it sounds like pure unadulterated one sided sex and found out what you wanted from the experience.
And then after the act if he really cared for you he should have asked you if you enjoyed it and if there were things use did that you felt uncomfortable about or you were unsure of.
And I don't except that old claptrap about men being private and not being able to talk about such things, it's complete and utter `TOSH`, nothing but an excuse.
If he cared for you or felt anything for you he would have looked after you and made things special and been open and honest with you and talked things through with you.
Unfortunately, although I hate to say it, I feel you have lost what is any persons (Whether they be male or female) most treasured possession to a thoughtless self centred man who obviousely sees your verginity as a troughy that he just had to have.
I suggest you dump him and don't give yourself to another man untill you are in a secure loving relationship. Believe me you will know when that happens.
By the way I am, I am sorry to have to admit it but I am a member of the male species, a species that lets itself down and fellow members all too often.
All the best,
BEANS.
2007-02-27 12:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by BEANS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a emotional as a dirt clod.
The first time is rough, not usually fun. The fun comes later after you figure out what to do. If he isn't able to talk about it, maybe he isn't the right guy for you. I know it's going to be very hard to realize this after giving him something that you've held on to for so long.
If he just won't talk about things with you, what kind of relationship is that going to be?
You'll be dealing with him and posting questions on here forever.
2007-02-27 12:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys find it difficult to deal with issues like this. don't you feel bad about it and as for him being embarrassed for you, why the h**l should you be embarrassed, did you lose your virginity on your own? I think not.
He doesn't sound very sensitive to be honest, doesn't matter how experienced he is, this experience with you should have meant something to both of you.
If he won't talk, then you'll just have to be patient or move on.
Sorry,
2007-03-05 08:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't enjoy. Breaking virginity is stress especially( no offence) for some that old is the hardest thing ever he probably thought he was going to hurt you. Just saying things as they are. Dont expect him to tell you that.
Let me know more. I don't bite
nicholasnawe@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 02:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave and in no way turn returned, true love doesnt incorporate violence, if a guy blames you for his very own errors in simple terms leave you're no longer responsible for his drug issues, he's clearly susceptible and cant say no. you would be happier in the long-term i promise, positioned it this way my mum did no longer leave and that i will undergo in strategies having my 4th bday in a battered wifes homestead, do you opt for that for you? He aint nicely worth it, there are such various nicer men obtainable, i think of you in basic terms picked a foul apple.
2016-10-02 02:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediately trace a life partner & enjoy the merried life without hesitations.
2007-03-04 22:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by PRINCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are shy about the topic,try to start something ( i find it easier over the Internet) slightly leaning on the topic you want to go in,then just try to talk to him about it.
I guess the best thing to do is just try to talk to him about it.
2007-02-27 12:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him to talk to you as much as possible it is very important to have communication. Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels
2007-02-27 12:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to set him down and make him talk about it. If you are both mature enough to have sex then you should definitely be able to talk about it.
2007-03-07 10:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by rdw722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋