A long-term friend just called me up and told me we needed to stop being friends. She's been having mental problems related to a friends suicide, and I often found myself not knowing what to say or do. During the call, it was like being read a list of things I've done bad in our friendship i.e. being immature, not being able to help her with her issues, abandoning her in times of need. I felt sabotaged, and like I was being read a list that had been rehearsed. Anyways, I was taken completely off guard and have some anger about that.... I've decided that I don't want to be friends with this person because I just can't deal with their issues, and being told I'm a bad person when I can't always be there to be supportive. I have my own life and problems too! I just need help dealing with the anger of being confronted, and help getting over this drama.
2007-02-27 12:09:51 · 6 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whatever you like to do, do it! Movies, video games, books, Mangas. Just get your head where you want it to be and hang out with the friends you have. It probably won't help to dwell on it with your friends. They will either agree with you or her and neither will help you to leave it behind.
2007-02-27 12:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by twogen1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you need a little help getting over it, it shows that you really did care about the friendship. Are you sure you want to end it? In your case, I would write a letter explaining your side of what happened and if you have problems with her, let her know that too! I like to get things off my chest because when I hold it in it gets much worse. Send a letter and if you're done with her, you don't ever have to say anything else. If not, try holding a decent mature conversation about how you can improve the friendship.
2007-02-27 12:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Michy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how you get over something like that. ive always been the friend that got crapped on. i guess you just need to see it from their point of view. when people are going through stress theyre going to do crazy things. let it slide and make new friends.
2007-02-27 12:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
part of being friends is being there for each other. when her friend committed suicide, she should of talked to u instead of breaking off the friendship. if you're upset of this just remember that she wasn't being fair to you, so you to obviously aren't meant to be friends. what's meant to be is what happens.
2007-02-27 12:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of it as being umped by someone you knew,i really don't believe that a real friends dumps another friend.this person was not a good friend in the first place
2007-02-27 12:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an effort to make some new friends- it's the quickest way to forget about this nut-job.
2007-02-27 12:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by W. Coastal Eddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋