ok i kinda had sex, me and my bf were at my house, and you know he puts the condom on, and both of us virgins. Well anyways when the time came and he wanted to go inside me, he couldnt, we were both in a lot of pain, I even helped him find the right spot, and we found it, he started to push in, but we were both hurting. Thats when he becamed soft, and took the condom off.
2007-02-27 12:07:17 · 27 answers · asked by Cutie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i kinda had sex, me and my bf were at my house, and you know he puts the condom on, and both of us virgins. Well anyways when the time came and he wanted to go inside me, he couldnt, we were both in a lot of pain, I even helped him find the right spot, and we found it, he started to push in, but we were both hurting. Thats when he becamed soft, and took the condom off. and in the end he didnt go inside me.
2007-02-27 12:14:13 · update #1
so it means i could be one? but not really?
he didnt go in, he just felt me with his penis on the outside since he couldnt get in.
2007-02-27 12:17:34 · update #2
You are not a virgin, as you had partial penetration. This is based on the strictest sense of the word "virgin." And being a virgin has nothing to do with orgaism, or "cumming." If it did masterbation would cause you to no longer be a virgin.
However, some feel that total penetration is the only mark of being a virgin, generally breaking the hyman (remember, not all women are born with a hyman and it can be damaged or broken by things like childhood injuries, or tampons). Most people feel however, that any type of sex, including oral, means you are no longer a virgin.
It totally depends on how you believe. It is also never too late to realize that sex is a blessing and that having sex too young (something that seems obvious by your post) is something better left for when you are more mature! Sex does not make you mature.
Only you can make the choice of when to have sex, and with who...just remember you are a blessing and should be treated as such!
2007-02-27 12:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-16 22:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strictly speaking, no penetration means you're both still virgins.
I'm going to hate myself for saying this, depending on how old you two are, but it sounds like you need to use a lot more lubricant. You normally make your own, but if you're nervous and tense, as you undoubtedly were, you dry up (just like he got soft). The lubricant on the condom isn't enough if you aren't producing any. So you should use drugstore lubricant (KY, etc).
2007-02-27 13:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are a virgin, but I would also say that the pain and difficulty getting him in you is a sign your body is trying to tell you that you weren't ready. I would suggest talking about it more with him first and making sure you really want to and if you do, try to stay relaxed and have lots of foreplay and lubricant to make things go more smoothly next time. Don't rush into it though. You only get one first time...
Also, bleeding is not always a sign of if you've lost your virginity. I didn't bleed at all my first time.
2007-02-27 12:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by vallygval 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a case of too early, not getting used to each other and doing enough 2nd and 3rd base stuff.
And lack of foreplay...
You tried to jump the gun... sex is pretty advanced...
Best get used to making out, then lots of stuff like blowjobs and hand jobs and feelign eachothers bits till you come, doing licking and all that, for weeks at least.
And seeing each other naked before you go all the way.
Just remaber it does not matter how the sperm gets in or on target.
ie on fingers when you take off condom and dont wash hands or drips and dribbles.
Sperm stays active outside the body as long as its wet., you ever seen quick dry sperm?
You were too tense...
As said you did not do all the foreplay stuff so where to tense... do that and you relax... but not with the intention to have sex. Just one day doing that you will wont to go further and not stop then it wont hurt
2007-02-27 12:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's a question for you to answer. Everyone has there own definition of what a virgin is. Some say any type of sex makes us not a virgin. Others say penetration and ejaculation are required. You need to decide your own definition. Being or not being a virgin does not really effect who you are.
2007-02-27 12:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sabrina R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
depends of your definition, if you say your "cherry" had to "pop" then no, if you say you had to try sex then yes, ur no longer a virgin. dont be embaresed honey the same thing hapened to me, your body just wasnt ready which is ok even if ur like 17 esspicially if u never wear tampons or dont even have your period at all and in that case your definatly not ready
2007-02-27 12:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Penetration= not a virgin anymore.
If you have sex your not a virgin, alot of people get confused thinking there is different rules ect.
You have sex, your not a virgin anymore.
2007-02-27 12:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't penetrate you, you're still a virgin. Sorry it was bad for you. Try it with an experienced guy.
2007-02-28 03:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you are still a virgin if the penis did not penetrate you.
2007-02-27 12:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋