hi i left my boyfriend of 4years to be with a married man. i know it is wrong of me, but i do like everything the married man has to offer except of course that he is not mine, when he goes off to his wife, that is when i start to think about my ex who is a good man, but we started having problems when he found out i was cheating on him, and he put his hands on me, after a while he forgave me but, i used him putting his hands on me to my avantage and left him because i counldn't stop thinking about the married man, i am not sure what to do should i get back with my ex who is a good person except that he now does not trust me and is controling and dosen't make me feel as special as he once did or should i stick with the married man who gives me everything and makes me feel special and hope that he leaves his wife. i really believe both of them love me, but i am so confused as to who to be with, i am affraid of my ex putting his hands on me again. please someone give me some advice
2007-02-27 11:52:24 · 5 answers · asked by apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Work things out with your ex. The married one probably has no intentions of leaving his wife. I guarentee. He is having fun with you. Why else would a married man have an affair other than just sex. It sure isn't anything else. He already has a woman beside him for the companionship and they share interest. The only thing he must be lacking is sex. He is using you girl and you are headed for a heartbreak. He gives you everything because you give him what he wants and when he is done he will be done. Dont waste your time and effort on this man. Let him find another sucker. Dont allow yourself to steep so low. Sounds like you have a confidence problem. You sound insecure and you are using this situation as an excuse. Also, if your ex is abusive, you dont need him either. Go in another direction. Find someone completely new. Be happy. You cant be happy being involved with a married man. I wouldn't be. All you do is think about him and wonder what he is doing or where he is and when the next time you will see him. All the time you are thinking about him, he is with the other woman in his life while you are left all alone. I mean he is having the best of both worlds. He is never alone, but you are and he has found that you are right where he wants you to be and he is taking advantage of the situation. Lose him. Its not worth it. How do I know this??? I have been there. I put all my energy into this so called wonderful man because he ws giving me attention to get sex in return. Please be smarter than I was and leave him before it gets out of control. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-27 12:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by latasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Yeah Sounds LIke U Made A BIG Mistake But I Wud Jus Find Another Lover Dat Isnt In A Relationship Unless The Married Man Is Guna Leave His Wife 4 U N Also You Wud Have To Worry About The Married Man Sleepin Around Cuz He Cheated B4
2007-02-27 12:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by damademan2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you need to leave them both alone and work on yourself....your in one bad relationship after another, and yes the relationship with the married man is bad too, and it just seems you need to work on your self esteem, and the need to love yourself first before you love someone else...
2007-02-27 12:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go back to your ex. The married man will leave you when he loses interest.
2007-02-27 12:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by ..;..;.. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somebody sure as hell needs to put their hands on ya, preferably around yer neck!
2007-02-27 11:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by texasjewboy12 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋