Ok, so I've known this girl for well over a year and a half. We've become pretty good friends over this time. I started to develop feelings for her but I didn't say anything until recently. I asked her out, and lately, she's been going out of her way to avoid talking to me. She's changed seats in class, and she's usually next to me. She works in a different computer lab than we usually do, where we spent most of our time together.
I'm just not sure what's going on. I suspect that she's afraid of getting into a relationship, her last two didn't go so well. What should I do? Give her time? Ask what's going on? She feels awkward about a longtime friend liking her I'm guessing.
2007-02-27 11:40:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anthony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ASK HER, maybe there was just some misread signs there. Maybe she just wants to keep it as friends. But, you will never know unless you ask her...BE a man, face her, and just ask what can she do? she won't bit your head off...lol
If she just wants to be friends then there you are....back off and just be friends...sometimes us girls just like a guy for friendship. nothing wrong with it....
2007-03-07 02:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by txO3blueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Good morning!
How did you break the news to her? Were you very persistant about it?
Try to arrange a time with her.. Plan on what you need to say to her.
You can start the conversation by asking her how are things been going for her. What has she been busy with etc. Since you have mentioned that the both of you are pretty good friends, you can start being direct with her after the usual greetings.. Tell her that by expressing your feelings to her, you don't want to lose her as a good friend. You only expressed to her recently because you wanted to be frank to her abour your feelings. If you could foresee that the friendship will be at stake, then you will not reveal your feelings to her... As you really value her friendship alot and you really do not want to lose this friendship that both of you had built.....
See what her response is. Tell her that you miss the good old days where you miss hanging out with her.. Gals normally try to avoid if they are afraid of being hurt once again.. If she fall into this category, then be patient. I'm not sure how badly she was hurt in the last 2 relationships.. but she might have told you about it and you might be the best person to know about it. If you do know, show that you are sincere. Show that you really care for her, be understanding, be there for her whenever she needs somebody.
One thing though... Don't just sit around playing guessing games. If you really care for her (which I know that you do), call her and make a time. Or you can pop up and wait for her class to finish and treat her to a meal, ok?
Good Luck!!
2007-02-27 12:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wouldn't? She probably wants to spare your feelings because she doesn't want you to be hurt if she tells you that she doesn't feel the same way, which is a big possibility. She doesn't feel the same way, if she did the moment you would have told her she would have said something, not just have let it go like that and start ignoring you. Give her time, tell her that she's under no obligation to start liking you back, because all it is, is like and nothing more. Let her know that you still want to be in her life no matter what. If you can't deal with her going out with other people and talking to you about it, then don't bother to try and reconcile. You're saving yourself from a world of heartache. Good luck sweetie!
2007-02-27 11:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't guess. Ask her. If you solve whatever's bothering her, you might be able to salvage the friendship. Also, if she's worried because her last 2 relationships weren't so good, you have to make her see that you'll treat her differently than they did.
2007-02-27 11:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took your relationship to a new level when you told her you had feeling for her...You need to talk to her and explain that your friendship is the most important thing in your life and to please forget what you ever said about deeper feelings...Tell her, you really miss her friendship...be honest...
2007-02-27 11:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time. You probably scared the heck out of her if you just up and asked her out.
2007-02-27 11:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to get in her way like a friend and talk to her like a friend and ask her if u and her can still be friends
2007-03-06 10:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her how she feels and why she is avoiding her
maybe she is nervouse
2007-03-07 07:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Vampire Master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋