I was sexually abused. The kid who did it used fear to get me to do what he wanted. I really want to learn how to trust people again. That is the main thing i want to learn how to do. It's hard. Any good advice??? srry, this has really bothered me. i dont want it to hurt me, but it still does. Everytime i see him, i have flashbacks of everything. The knife, and him just doing bad things to me. Please help me trust again!
2007-02-27 11:25:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wish i could say it never happened.
2007-02-27 11:53:46 · update #1
thank you very much for all the helpful/encouraging comments. i appreciate them and your words have inspired me. i also would like to say, that this issue has almost been settled, its just a matter of me being able to trust again. thank you
2007-02-27 13:15:42 · update #2
First of all, don't get rid of the memories, all they will do is come back. Instead, you must learn to accept them as your past and see that there is a different future ahead of you if you are willing to go get it.
Counselors are of course a good choice, and it is recommended that you get one for her to help you during the process to recovery.
Do you know a nice guy around you? Like someone that you've never really felt comfortable around but someone who's always been consistently nice and respectful to you? If you do, I suggest that you try and find out more about him. Try to understand who he is. Hang out with him in a group of friends. Tell yourself to talk to him. Be courageous!
Of course, take your time, don't rush things. You don't want to go head in into something you don't know about yet.
Once you understand him, though, you'll see that not all guys are horrible people, and that some can be quite nice. If you can establish a relationship with him, then you'll have conquered your fear of men.
2007-02-27 11:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Simplex Spes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is the point of learning to trust just anyone?
What you need is a good dose of street smart which cannot be learned from books or platitudes. What you need to do is build a healthy and strong body and a knowing mind.
You could take up Aikido which is a wonderful way to strenghten your body and build up your confidence. A counsellor can help you with human relationships. He or she can show you how to avoid placing yourself in a victim situation in future.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 11:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aaah, what is your problem, people, calling her a liar? Have some compassion, pleeeease. Sheesh.
Are there any guys around you who feel safe to you? Like they'd never hurt anyone on purpose? If you can feel that way about some people, I'd say try and stick around, talk, get to know them better - let them be reminders that people are good.
That's what I'm trying, anyway. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
2007-02-27 11:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cedar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girly don't listen to those other idots you can learn to trust again. You must learn to forgive so that you can go on with your life. I had a similar thing to happen to me. It took me a few years to get over it, but I put it in the hands of the Lord.
2007-02-27 11:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by shareron 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no substitute for time. You don't want to rush into trusting people because you feel you should. People earn trust.
I think you should seek counseling if you haven't already and keep up with it if you have.
In my experience, time doesn't heal all wounds, it just teaches you how to live with them. Give yourself time to grieve and don't be so hard on yourself. You can get past this in time, but give it time.
2007-02-27 11:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Maniaca Esoterica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You need like real, professional advice, not from people just trying to get 2pts and move on.
Not for nothing, accept it, remember every doggy has it's day and what comes around goes around. If it were up to me though, I'd cut his nuts off. No man, hits a woman.
2007-02-27 11:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time and and a sympathetic counsellor can help get rid of the memories.
There are a lot of nice boys out there, just go slowly with relationships.
2007-02-27 11:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
..."trust" is earned... "men" are born with the "jerk" gene... until "they" realize it and get it under control or go thru a cranial rectostomy be careful... and pick your friends in places other then where "sin" abounds... there are lots of wonderful people "out there"... you'll know them the moment your spirit gets the message... trust your spirit (your inner voice)
2007-02-27 11:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get professional help if you really wan to get better.
2007-02-27 11:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by rico3151 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling.
if i was you i will make world without him by useing knife and killing him !!
but just go away or police. how come he is still around you???
2007-02-27 11:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by cb450t 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋