She found out that I have been wearing thongs. She tru them all away. She doesn't have the right to I bought them with my own money. She says its because I'm only 13. I don't think it is fair. Everyone wears them.
2007-02-27 11:18:16 · 34 answers · asked by Lolipop 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i am 17 years old and i started wearing thongs when i was 13 or 14. i dont see anyting wrong with them. as long as you are wearing them right! what i mean is you dont try to show them off by wearing low-rise jeans and pulling your thong clear up so every one knows you are wearing it. try to explain that it doesnt show your underware line and thats why you like them!
nikita
2007-02-27 11:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes she is being unreasonable. Your underwear is your underwear, your business. Especially if you bought them with your own money.
That said 'Everyone wearing them' isn't the best way to overcome her objection. You will only get the if everyone is going to jump off a bridge speech. We can all do without that one. I do my best as a parent to avoid going there. SIDENOTE I would like to say to one of the people above there are PLENTY of women who wear them, many over the age of 16. I don't know if she is going around checking everyone over 16's underwear and she feels she can say this on authority. But I can say that most of my friends do wear them and we are in our 30's.
I do believe that your Mom is having a really hard time with you growing older. She seems to have strong beliefs about what is appropriate and isn't. Without a lot of leeway for your opinion or needs. I'm sorry it's unfortunate she doesn't discuss why she objects to them and speak to you about why she feels this way. I think she is losing a chance to become closer with you.
2007-02-28 06:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 13 year old with a thong... thats just wrong! i'm sorry: your own money? you mean the money your parents gave you for christmas? babysitting money? oh wow.. impressive. no your mom has every right to make that decision... sorry the only reason to have a thong is if you are going to have sex. at your age, the only reason i can think of is if you are going somewhere nice WITH your parents and don't need to have pantylines.. even then, there is such thing from Victoria's secret as no-pantyline panties. you live under their roof, their rules really.. you are only 13, you will have plenty of years to wear thongs and make them worthwhile.
2007-02-27 19:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by jpcjulia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With parents you have to realize that the morals they believe were taught to them 20 or more years ago. I think to some parents thongs are viewed as sexual clothing. That if you are wearing thongs you must be having sex which isn't always the case. So to her it seems threatening so she threw them away. Try talking to her and asking her why it is wrong for you to wear them. And tell her why you wear them and why you think it is unfair for her to throw them away. And try not to use the "everyone else wears them" line...it wont help
2007-02-27 12:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom's intentions were good, but her actions were wrong. You have the right to spend your money on the type of underwear you like best. She is probably fearful that your choice of underwear is a sign that you could become sexual with guys before she feels you are ready. I would suggest you reassure her that that is not the case and let her know why you do like thong underwear, and maybe she will be more understanding.
2007-02-27 11:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by vallygval 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where your mother is coming from. She cares very much about you and wants you to be a lady. some girls have mothers who don't care what they do. I think by throwing the thongs away will make you more sneeky behind your mother's back. Why don't you and your mom meet each other half way and just own ONE pair for right now. When your older you and your mom discuss it with each other over a nice outing with each other. good luck to you both. PS. LOVE IS PRICELESS
2007-02-27 11:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by catherine n 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is obviously having a hard time with the fact her little girl is growing up. Especially if you bought them with your own money. I would show your maturity and sit her down to have a frank talk. Tell you how you feel and ask her WHY she feels you can't wear them. Explain that you aren't wearing them to be sexy but simply because they are comfortable to you. See what she says. Best of luck!
2007-02-27 11:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by karate_girl4678 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Thongs will be better when you have a boyfriend to show them too in a few years.
Thats their purpose... to trun on boys. Thats not a bad thing
neither is chicken
its just if you dont cook chicken well till ready to eat, you get food poisoning.
Sex is a bit like that.
Your mum thinks you will have sex as you ware thongs...
Point out to your mum. If you are going to have sex it wont matter what undies you ware. You just dont want to do it just yet (its tastier when cooked to around 16) if you get the analigy
2007-02-27 12:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being unreasonable and sound like a brat. I would usually not say this to someone, but I saw your answer to another question saying that you sneak your short skirts to school and change into them. You are disrespectful and headed for trouble. You think you are grown, but you are not. And trust me, your Mom will find out that you are changing clothes at school, they always do. You may think your Mom is stupid and unreasonable, but she loves you and worries about you and doesn't want you to act like an adult before you actually are one. You want to think you are grown but your attitude screams out, "I'm a spoiled little brat."
2007-02-27 11:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only wearing them because everyone else is wearing them. I am a little older than you but I can say that kids these days are growing up way too fast.
2007-02-27 11:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋