My ex and I split in May but spent most of the year spending time together. Around December, we decided to go ahead and divorce and filed papers. Not long after she asked me if I was dating and I told her yes (though I wasnt). She seemed a little hurt. Our anniversary came at the end of the month and I sent flowers. We went to lunch and she started telling me about the new guy she was dating, and asking me about my dates. The last couple of weeks she is telling me this guy is the love of her life and were done. I've told her I still love her and am willing to fight for our marriage. Her friends feel she is fooling herself. I sent her an email telling her I am moving on but thanking her for showing me the changes I need to make to be better next time. She returned an email saying first she is glad I am willing to change, then how this guy loves her better than me, finally turning angry saying she doesnt care what I change. Sounds like a rebound to me and she is still hurt. Any thoughts
2007-02-27 11:12:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does matter to me. I still love her. Without to much detail the changes I need to make were fair of her to ask. I and yes I know the bit about wanting what you dont have.
2007-02-27 11:30:11 · update #1
sounds like she just went out and found someone because you lied to her and said you were. like she had to prove that she too is moving on. i doubt her relationship is anywhere as serious as she says it is or that she thinks it will be. she is very hurt by what you said. she has to prove she is better than you, that she can do better without you, and that she doesn't need you in her life. that is what she is doing.
2007-02-27 11:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the one hurt. get over her.. you learned how to be better that's all you can expect anymore so if you are going in with that in mind you are so much more better off as you come out right? OK then now that we are on the same page a rebound love is one who fills the void of being without right then within hours or days not almost a year she had plenty of time to work the audience (so to speak) she probably knows what she is doing more so than you? Try and let her go as soon as you can you will thank her for the clarity she gave your being and now you can move forward to find that one who truly is there waiting for you to be found...
2007-02-27 19:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I only had to read the first half of the paragraph to know that she's mean for even telling you about some other guy being the love of her life. 6 years later and my divorce still hurts. that's something you'll always have. Try to leave her out of your life for a while so you can heal and move on, then try being friends.
2007-02-27 20:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to stop playing games! You're getting divorced now, so go through with it. She IS on the rebound, yes, but that is not your responsiblity, nor your concern. She wouldn't listen anyway. Move on in your own life, and let her live hers.
2007-02-27 19:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-02-27 20:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah probably, but does it matter? For you, I mean.
2007-02-27 19:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your ex, move on already and leave her be
2007-02-27 19:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋