My wife just let my 14 year old daughter get a belly button ring even thou i told her no?

Question

Yesterday morning my daughter asked me if i could get a belly button ring and i and my wife agreed thatt we would not get her it ,this afernoon my wife got her a belly button ring saying that it will make her cool and kids need to be cool because if she doesn't be cool then she will get bullied and all who get bullied become seriel killers ,i am shocked by my wifes stupidness i mean come on "all bullied are seriel killers" should i commit my wife to a mental instatusian

Answer 1

I am not sure I believe you.....but these are some ideas...
1. Make your daughter take it out; call the doc about healing (do you need antibiotics ointment? )
2. Get serious about a plan with your wife, if she can't enforce NOW you will be in serious trouble in about 16 months.
3. Make a few rules that you and your wife don't really care about just for practice (that way you dont squirm or freak when the kids push the limits; and if they are busy breaking those they aren't busy doing something else).
4. Get your own belly button pierced or fake pierced and be sure to show it off whenever your daughter has friends over.
5. UNPLUG the tv..I work in jail, that is not how serial killers are made.
6. Your girls need some confident female role models, you wife either needs to get her act together or start enlisting the help of women she knows who have it together.......unfortunately our kids have to live in the real world where not everyone plays nice....its our responsibility to teach them how to protect themselves, how to make good choices, and how to handle peer pressure..

Answer 2

Not an instatution, but maybe marriage couseling if the both you are not communicating. Tell you wife how you feel about what she has done. My daughter is 14 and she she a great kid, but as all teenagers do, she pushes that envelope. Now is the most important time in your relationship that will you both must, must be a united front on all decision relating to your daughter. Just be careful on what battles to pick, you can't win them all when it comes to a teenager because you don't want her to go behind your back either and do something totally outragous.

Answer 3

I don't see the problem with your daughter getting a belly button ring and your wife is right about the cool part. Trust me, I know. As for the bullied becoming serial killers, um, maybe your wife has a secret?
haha
Just let it go, everyone has blonde moments.

Answer 4

your wife is right. give her credit: she was the girl in school, you were a boy: you don't know for sure. belly button ring is an accessory there is nothing wrong with it. it doesn't mean that your daughter will go and have sex, if she wanted to she would with out the belly button ring. right now, its the thing to have among the 14-15 year olds, so let her be happy. It doesn't hurt her, she feels cool. your wife is right in this case, sorry...

Answer 5

ok that is not right that make me feel bad because i get bullyied everday and i am not a seriel killer or never will be one what is wonge with her noone is cool in high school any way they are going out of staly and she will have a hoe in her belly for the rest of her life and if she have to get want she want and have to have a belly ring then she dont have real friend and about the mental instatusian maybe a hum she need to tlak to some one

Answer 6

i would have a serious talk with her if i were you. your wife has opened up a can of worms that is going to be hard to close. since your wife did this, from now on your daughter is going to ask mom for something like this instead of you because you are going to say no. she is going to start playing you and your wife against each other to get what she wants. you and your wife need to get on the same page asap. there are more important things than being popular in school. she is being taught the wrong things by your wife doing this. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 7

What your wife did was disrespectful because that means you guys can't come into a understanding on something and your child will use that to her advantage when she sees that her mom will allow her to do what she wants to do. She won't have any respect for you because she would know to run straight to her mom if you said no and you don't want that to become a issue in your family. People get divorces all the time because they're never on the same page. If you guys made a decision together then she should of stuck to it.

Answer 8

Tell your daughter to take it out. they are removable. I am one of the most coolest people you will ever meet and i dont have a belly ring. You dont need a belly ring to be cool. Yor daughter is obviously feeling insecure about something else and is trying to be in with the in crowd even though they dont accept her. Tell her to be her own crowd because 10 years from now she will not know those people and if she does, they will be the ones who still dont know what they want to do in their life. I'm 14 and i got a whole bunch of oter things going for me. Your daughter probably does to so just let her know and tell her to be her own perosn. Tell your wife she is slow.

Answer 9

Your wife actually has a point...

psychos and school shooters were bully victems and thats what drove them to it.


Look daughter is growing up into a young woman and wants to feel girlie... belly buttons do look pretty and many girl mates have had them...


but they are prove to infection so the wife prob figued daughter would do it anyway so took the sensible decision to make sure it was done by a professional to prevent serious infection

Answer 10

No, I don't think you should commit her to a mental institution. I think you need to sit your wife down and have a deeper talk with her. Tell her how you think that as parents and a part of a marriage is keeping a united front especially when it comes to kids but also in all things, explain to tell her how you need to set boundaries with the kids, and explain to her how the kids can take advantage of her.