Do you think he is cheating? or what i am confused?

Question

Ok here is a little background we have been married for five years and together for 8. We have been together since high school. Ok anyways we were having problems for a while and we seperated for about a month. We got back together and then he got sent to iraq for 16 month we got really close while he was gone atleast we finally started to communicate.. Ok anyways since he has been back i have had suspitions about what happened over there and then now over here. I broke into his accounts and found a letter from some girl from over there and it said he missed her and the special times they had i have talked to him and we got past that and then i found out he is on like adultfriend finder in our area and other things like that and then he has another account set up saying he is single and stuff. recently he never wants to be with me & the kids and he never wants to have sex and he watches porn and masturbates often while i am downstairs with the kids what do you think

Answer 1

I would say that behavior is not only suspect, but is pretty telling that he is at least hiding things from you. But if he is a married man, he has no business even being on any online dating sites. He shouldn't be having any sort of romantic relationships with anyone but you.

I think you and he need to have a sit down, heart to heart about this. He will either deny it or admit it. So be prepared for either response. You both probably need some marriage counseling.

Either way, something isn't right in your marriage and it needs to be worked on. Hopefully he will recognize this too, and will be willing to do what is necessary to make the marriage work.