When the next day coming promises nothing better than the day before, when it it feels as if you have been forsaken by all things grandious and plain, when nothing brings you comfort, and there is no hope in sight. What do you do when you feel like this?
2007-02-27 10:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Matticus Kole 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I remember that no matter how bad it is for me, some where
there is someone that is worse off.
2007-02-27 11:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by hunterentertainment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reflect upon yourself. Remember, it is you who assign value to external things for happiness. If you can instead look high and low for opportunity, you will find it. It doesn't matter if it's a small opportunity or a big one, concentrating on looking for them gets you to notice them where you wouldn't before. Therefore, the ratio of "happy" thoughts increases and the world is less bleak. It's all a matter of perspective. If you don't like the view, change how you think about it.
I highly recommend meditating, it has been proven to increase neocortex thickness and well being (well, activation of positive and happiness centers of the brain).
Also, you may want to read a book by Matthieu Ricard called "Happiness". He is clinically the happiest person in the world, so he's a bit of an authority on the subject, and he claims happiness is a skill you must maintain, else it is as random as the wind as it depends on external conditions instead of internal ones.
Good luck buddy!
2007-02-27 19:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by neuralzen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our human intelligence allows us to get depressed and feel despair. If you were constantly being hunted by large animals, you would find satisfaction in escaping and outwitting your predators. Bottom line, the way to escape from despair is to keep busy as much as possible, avoid watching too much TV (depressing both physically and mentally) and stay physically active. Do things that you know you can get better at by doing them - improving our skills really makes humans feel better. If you're not having sex often, change that, and don't avoid having sex due to any insecurity or because he/she isn't "hot" enough. I always think about what motivates my dog. He's never depressed. I think it's because he keeps very active, he gets smarter and stronger all the time, he doesn't worry about things, he's around others that love him, and he likes to have sex (or trying to anyway, his mom's about to fix him). I can't find any more significance/purpose in life than that. I stopped looking for it a while back - it was a real bummer to think about all the time. I just decided that I would try to make it as painless as possible and ride it out.
2007-02-27 19:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by Gator B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually i write in my journal or listen to music.and then you just keep on going trying to find beauty in the little things that make you smile. and even though you feel blue and like nothing good will ever happen, if you just keep living one day you will meet someone who will put stars in all your darkest skies and the world will seem like a sunflower or wahtever you love. and if you feel so low you dont wanto to do anything, maybe you should shimmy down some unknown quarters and make beauty out of boredom or find new things to amuse you! either way i have hope for you and i think you will get happy again once this state of depression passes. in the meantime you can listen to these days by nico or she smiled sweetly by the rolling stones and hmm light and day/reach for the sun-polyphonic spree
2007-02-27 19:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by lalalola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've seen fight club right? well, it has a point, its a little skewed, but its important- we are held by our things- our bills, our cars, our need for material objects- you are finally free. you have hit rock bottom and wait... youre still alive! and youre free- free to not worry about the bottom cause youre there! you can now do what you want and no worry about failure cause really, how can you get lower? enjoy it! for a few minutes...
then realize its unrealistic to really hit rock bottom. like i said youre alive! you have a chance to do amazing things. maybe your life isnt what you thought it was going to be - no ones is! realize you are not the only person in this world who feels alone and at the bottom of a well. you still have the opportunity to make a real difference in this world even if it is simply by existing in it. you never know who's life you touch! at some point to have to make a choice- you can accept you've hit bottom or see it as not hitting but landing back on the ground. try helping others.
2007-02-27 20:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take inventory of your life. What do you have that is good?
What is so bad that it cannot change? Then you say, "Is the cup half empty, or half full?". What do I want and is there a way to get it? If not, then change your wants. Work with what you have.
If you cannot deal, then say to yourself: God, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.
Good luck!
2007-02-27 19:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to lift yourself up. If you are somewhere where you feel there is nothing for you, go somewhere else. If no one else can help you, you have to help yourself. You are strong enough to help yourself, you just have to want to help yourself. Find out what makes you happy and revel in that. If the place where you live makes you unhappy, move. If the people around you make you unhappy, walk away. If your job makes you unhappy, leave. There is always something that triggers depression, so you have to distance yourself from whatever that is, as much as possible.
2007-02-27 19:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like this, pause for a few minutes and clear your mind of all thoughts. Think of one thing that is bothering you at the moment and meet it with compassion and love instead of anger or disappointment. Everything that happens is a blessing, somethings are incredibly if not impossible for most people to see as a positive. How ever, these events in our life even if they bring pain are trying to teach us something. If you are able to meet pain and suffering with compassion how can you be hurt. You must learn to accept the events in your life that are causing you pain, once you accept them without judgment ask your self "what do I need to do to free my self from this cycle of suffering". When you can be happy even when you feel as though you have nothing to live for, you will find true happiness.
2007-02-27 19:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tool 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop Living for self and start living for others. That is called selfishness. That is what Jesus did. He gave of him self to that others like you and I could live, know life, and have it more. To Know who our True Father is and he is Love.
(1John 4:8) He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
(John 10:10) The thief comes not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have [it] more abundantly.
There is nothing more satisfying than to have helped someone live and learn that life is a precious gift from God.
So follow the golden Rules, Repent (change your mind) and Live in Goodness!
2007-02-27 19:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[18:47] Wealth and children are ornaments of the life of this world. But enduring good works are better in the sight of thy Lord in respect of immediate reward, and better in respect of future hope.
[41:50] Man tires not of praying for good; but if evil touch him, he despairs, giving up all hope.
2007-02-27 18:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋