Help!!!Theres this girl and she is in my group.But when we have to do group work, she just lacks off.I don't want to tell on her and my other friends in my group don't too!We all tell her to wort or else the whole group will fail the project.What do i do?
2007-02-27 10:43:18 · 8 answers · asked by Cindy C 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
I need to ask a couple of questions first. Do you have the assigned tasks clearly defined? Your friend may not be intuitive or a self starter. Someone in the group with great organizational skills may be able to define what needs to be done by each member so the whole group will succeed.
Next, does your friend understand that she needs you as much as you need her. It might be time for one of you to explain that if she does not come through for you, somebody might not come through for her next time! If this does not impress her, you may have to ask the teacher to assign you or her to another group. You don't have to tell on her, just say that it is adversely affecting your friendship and that your friendship is too valuable for you to give up over a failed group project. If your teacher is slightly more intuitive than your friend then that hint should be enough.
Is your friend just lazy? You may need to pair her with someone who can motivate her. The other thing to consider is that a true friend is someone you can depend on and who can depend on you. Someone you just have fun with is a playmate.
Ultimately, if the project is going to succeed, you are going to have to give her a job that doesn't matter as much, make sure that what she is doing is also covered by others so it gets done with her or without her, and forgive her for what she doesn't do. Next time you have a group assignment, don't allow her in the group, or ask to be in a group she is not in. You won't be doing her any favors by continuing to cover for her and if being her friend means doing her work for her, that isn't friendship, that's slavery!
One other thought. Suggest to the teacher that you keep a progress report during the project. The progress report will tell on whoever is not doing their share, long before the project is finished, and she will have to deal with the teacher directly instead of making one of you the "fall guy!"
Ultimately, the very best thing to do is to have a group meeting, like an intervention. Tell her what is going wrong, how she can fix it, and how friendship doesn't mean you have to accept a failing grade because of her. She may get mad, and she may feel hurt for a little while, but if it causes her to do her share, then you will have a better friend. If it doesn't, then you have every right to bring the teacher in on the next meeting.
2007-02-27 16:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by MUDD 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I myself would get the rest of the group together and talk about it. Decide whether you are going to let the slacker not do anything or whether you are all going to talk to them.
If you do talk to the slacker, tell them that it is a group grade, and that they need to participate. If they are having problems with their part, they can ask for help and not to be shy about asking for help.
If you decide not to talk to the slacker, or you did and it made no difference, do the work yourself (or split the slacker's work amongst the group) and inform the teacher. Tell the teacher that the slacker did not help, and you could ask them for help. Teachers acknowlege the fact that some students are noncooperative, and can help you. But don't complain to the teacher, ranting and raving, Be polite and explain that you are trying to include the slacker, but they aren't trying. They usually have some great tips.
2007-02-28 02:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes one or two people in the group 'take over' the project and the other members of the group don't know what is expected of them. Try giving her a specific assignment and see if that helps.
2007-02-27 13:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you call it, people do not all work at the same level nor speed. Some will let others do the work and take the credit, while others will do the work without worrying about credit.
2007-02-27 10:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by doggiebike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gave her sometime. IF u guess work with out her and don't tall a what is going on she well feel left out. or just ask her what is wrong their could be something in her mine.
2007-02-28 11:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Alice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean "slack" off? If the rest of the group is like you, maybe she just doesn't care and thinks you are all bad spellers with short vocabularies?
2007-02-27 10:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well when i do group, slack is the least of my problems
2007-02-27 10:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u tell her she needs to get her *** up and do some work
2007-02-28 05:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by babynene2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋