I just want to feel needed and loved... I have asked my wife to email me messages or call me and leave a voicemail... maybe surprise gifts... is it not normal for a husband to seek this from his wife... I'm a confident man that's been married to her for about 7 years... I'm 28 and stay fit for my health and so that she can find me attractive... but she will not let down her gaurd and let me know how much she cares... if I bring it up to her she gets offended saying that I don't love her for her... but I do I just want to know it from her... is this normal in a marriage?
2007-02-27 10:30:21 · 21 answers · asked by David 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do tell her... I call her and send her flowers for no reason... I sexually gratify her... she tells me... she's kind of cold in a way I guess... I do clean do dishes and laundry and help out... I also work hard.
2007-02-27 11:21:19 · update #1
Honey... there is no "normal" let go of that, and you are on a roll to success.
You want more attention? Give her some subtle examples.
Email her... drop her little notes.
2007-02-27 10:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's more than likely that she has a lot of masculine genes in her and she has taken on her fathers persona having watched it in person during her growing years and that is what's scary. Where you probably too are more similar to your mother and she her dad you are almost opposites as most couples go. I think it's good and certainly worth working on. Try telling her how much you love her by giving her calls during the day, an e-mail here and there and gifts too..... Sounds like you do the dishes and laundry huh????
2007-02-27 18:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do feel as though your wife should send those things out of consideration for you. The point in marriage besides raising a family and home, is to make each other happy. I understand how it is to be with a hard ***, but my man is still good at being romantic. It is selfish of your wife (you probably already feel this). You should cook her a romantic dinner and express your emotions in a heart to heart, maybe shell brake then.
2007-02-27 18:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by kv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to want that, but some people are just not good at showing it. If she is not going to change and you truly love her you need to try and accept it however hard it may be. If you have been married for 7 years then you should just try and trust that fact that she does love you as much as you love her, she just doesn't know how to show it. I think a lot of married couples go through this.
2007-02-27 18:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee0420 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way about my fiance. It is normal. Some people need a lot of reassurance. I know I do. I want my fiance to tell me how much he loves me all the time and how he would just die without me, but I know that is never going to happen. He doesn't express his feelings that way. He does other things to show his love for me. Like bringing me food, drinks....(little things like that). It took me a long time to figure this out. I thought that he didn't love me or wasn't attracted to me, but when I would confront him about it. He would be like I do love you that is why I brought you that pizza earlier.
2007-02-27 18:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could find someone like you! I would love to have my husband actually want me to call. Maybe for her its alittle strange. Most men don't want that kind of attention. And to ask her to do something that is not the "norm" might put her off. Let her think your cheating or something and I bet she would be callin you at all times! Women are funny like that. the most you can do is keep doing waht you are doing now. Treat others how you want to be treated! and you treating her great like that one day she will pick it up as welll..if not call me!
2007-02-27 20:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you and dont be shy about continuing to ask for attention. Too many people let this go until it is too late. You have to make her aware that you have needs and that you go out of your way to keep yourself in shape and show her how you care for her, that you want the same in return. You are trying to make her into a more romantic woman. She is a fool if she doesnt appreciate that in you. If she wont,,eventually someone else will.
2007-02-27 18:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, because that is what you want or need. I am glad that you work so hard at making your marriage successful, a lot of people give up after a few years and that can lead to divorce. Hopefully she will learn to appreciate you - soon
2007-02-27 20:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal desire and she might not see it as such. She may not have a full understanding of the importance of romance in marriage, she might think along the lines of I've got the ring, I've got the name, so why be romantic?
Tell Princess Charming that romance keeps marriage alive. Lack of imagination in marriage makes it stale...fast. I wish you well.
2007-02-27 18:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are in an introver/extrovert relationship. where as she may be the introvert and you may be the extrovert. i'm not going to go into the details of it but just check out the websites below and when you get the chance...buy the book 'the introvert advantage.' it may help you to understand and explain why you may be running into this situation. see...me being an introvert myself...i don't have a need for affection and a need to feel loved. that is smothering to me and i need my space. that's not to say that i am not capable of love...it's just that it is expressed differently. maybe that's what you are dealing with.
2007-02-27 19:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋