My boyfriend 32 and I 29 have been together for 8 months.We are very much in love.He really shows me his love and I have no complains.He has already told me a lot of times without proposing that we will get married and made me believe that he meant soon e.g (a year).But a week ago he told me that he has set a time limit to himself not to do anything(get married,live together e.t.c)for the next 1.5 year(which means that we may get married in 2.5 years) because he wants to pay off his loan car.Should I trust that he will keep his word?He has promised other not really important things to me(like bying something or going to a nice restaurant) and sometimes didn't keep his promises or postponed things.That's what worries me and to tell you the truth I do not want to waste my time with someone who isn't worth it.I did that with my ex for 6 years and have been really hurt.How can I tell if he means what he says?Thank you in advance for your replies.Good luck to you all.
2007-02-27 10:28:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds sensible to me, he clearly doesn't want to go into a marriage with debt. I think thats admirable and it shows maturity. Seems he has financial savvy.
Do you love the man or do you love the idea of being a bride?
Also, are you being fair when you compare two men? Think about it. How would you like it if the shoe were reversed?
Maybe, he is so stressed about paying off the car loan that he cannot spend or is not willing to spend money on restaurants and gifts or whatever.
I would advise you to be patient as he pays off his debt. If you trust him, save room in your future plans for him. Be at peace while you're waiting and do both of you a favor - stop comparing him to that former guy.
Respect that he has a plan. Put another way, he has a plan that might include marrying you if you're patient.
All the best!
2007-02-27 10:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As they always say, actions speak louder than words so it's unfortunate that he's let you down in other smaller ways which has created this doubt in your mind about his marriage intentions. If marriage is really important to you then you need to explain your feelings about how you were hurt in your previous relationship and how you now "know" that you are more than ready for marriage. There will always be something to pay for (his car loan etc) and you can have a modest wedding or you can get engaged and then take your time to save for a larger wedding if that's what you both have in mind. I think communication is the key and use your own instincts as to whether he's leading you on or not. It's a tough one. Good luck!
2007-02-27 10:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is distancing himself from you. Come on now, he's 32 and stilll needs 2.5 more years for commitment. ??? What is up with that??? A car loan is keeping him from commitment.... and he is 32??? that is so ridiculous..., really now. When I was in my 20's my soon to be husband and I both had car notes, but that didn't keep us from marriage!! Sweetie, this guy is just buying time....if you two are " very much in love ', something like a car note would not keep him away from you. Move on, move on, move on.
2007-02-27 10:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You have to go by actions. Now waiting to get married until he pays off a load? That is the dumbest thing I heard today. Bet after that is payed off he will want to wait until the moon is back in the 7th house....and then until after the new year.
You should not trust his word so much.
(though you will likely stay with him for another 6 years anyway)
2007-02-27 10:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has already started "stalling". This time it's the car, next it will be to save some money, etc. Nope! Time to move on before you waste any more years.
2007-02-27 10:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's not going to get married if he's already pushing it back. He shouldn't of brought it up in the first place.
2007-02-27 12:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judge him by his actions! I leave you two of my favorite quotes; "Believe who a person shows you they are.... the first time." and " A person can make their mouth say ANYTHING."
2007-02-27 10:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he is a waste of your time
2007-02-27 10:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by SANDRA J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask someone to ask him who's his best friend tell you with out him knowing
2007-02-27 10:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋