Do you think men are flawed because mostly women raise them?

Question

As I sit and think back most of the complaints women have about men goes back to the way they were raised. Men don’t help around the house. Men are liars. Are women that victim of their own designs? How many men witnessed mommy lying to daddy while growing up? Was it not women as caretakers that didn’t teach their sons how to cook and clean? Do you think in general women are the victims of their own design?

Do women not have culpability here?

A single mother raised me without a male roll model in the house. I was taught how to take care of the house and make my own lunch and dinner. I did my own laundry by at 9. I have not met a woman that can take as good care of my clothing than me so I ask them to leave it for me. Mom and I had many conversations about the male and female dynamic.

Answer 1

There could be a slight bit of truth to you question.My husband didn't know anything about doing laundry, mateing up sock or anything. He does now know how to do all this. Thanks to me.
My son on the other hand who is 11 has won baking competions at the county fair against women and girls his own age. He can sort laundrywash it, dry it and fold it up, and put it away.
He is a neat freak like myself andwill help do whatever I am doing.
He is trying to learn to knit now. He has already learned to sew and blow the 4-H agent out of the water by knowing how to sew on a button three years ago when not one of the 14 girls in the class knew that you could sew on a button.


I am shocked that most women don't let their son or sons in the kitchen or near a washing machine.

Jenn

Answer 2

Men are not flawed. There are people with flawed thinking, but that isn't because they are men or are women. Whether someone is raised by a woman or a man or both has no bearing on one's attitude on life or the complaints that one will have toward the opposite sex. It is the attitudes that are passed onto children by whoever has an influence on a child's life, that affects the attitudes that child will have when they grow up. If women complain that men don't help out around the house or that men are liars, then perhaps those same women should have chosen someone with better character traits because there are plenty of men who are very helpful and considerate and do not lie or cheat. Generalizing a particular group of people because of one's own experiences is never a good idea. While it's true that a parent's obligation is to raise their child with good values, all the good values in the world mean nothing if the child grows up without being taught the meaning of a good character. My ex-mother-in-law taught my ex-husband to cook, clean and help out, but still, he was abusive, mean, selfish and blamed everyone else for his mistakes. My future mother-in-law did NOT teach my fiance how to cook or clean, but he is so kind and considerate, thoughtful and helpful. It's not so much who you were raised by, but how well the person(s) who raised you taught you about good character that counts.

Answer 3

It is the lack of fathers that's the problem. Women are to take care of their sons needs until about age 4 or 5, then the father should really take over, and teach the boy how to be a man. The boy slowly getting away from mom's influence. And the fathers are the ones who should stand firm and make sure the boy is doing his share at home as well. Mom is there to kiss the bruises. However, it's not that way any more is it? And so women complain about the men in their lives for not bein sensitive enough, or caring, yet all knowing and strong. I feel for them.

Answer 4

First of all you are making an assumption that men are flawed and that men are flawed because "mostly" women raise them. People, whether they are men or women are short-changed if their upbringing has not provided for them a sound foundation of good values. We learn from our parents' example whether the primary caregiver is the mother or the father and our attitudes towards the roles of men and women are shaped by our upbringing. Certainly, a child who from an early age is not taught responsibilty; who witnesses dishonest behaviour from either parent or who is not encouraged to practise basic life skills is receiving a poor upbringing whether they are male or female.

Answer 5

I am confused. The same women are not doing the raising as are doing the complaining.

For example, my brother, with a mom and six older sisters, can cook, clean, wash, sew, bake, knit, and embroider circles around most WOMEN, let alone men. His wife has NOTHING to complain about in that department.He's six-five and operates a forklift for a living, and can also hunt, fish, hike and do survival camping better than most men.

Our society is patriarchal, and it expects men to not be accountable to any woman. Unless a woman bucks the tide and teaches her sons to respect women as people, men will continue to suffer poor relationships when the women they date and marry expect better treatment than society expects from them.

Answer 6

I don't think that would be the reason at all.Men in my book have there own flawed.If that was the case than my farther lied to my mother lots of times with his g/f all the time.The women just Cinda baby there son to much.That's all

Answer 7

In some cases this is quite true,it depends on the women and also on the father if one is there.The way people are has lots to do with the way they are raised for sure.

Answer 8

you got a good *** point!!!! i personally expect a lot from men i was raised in a 2 parent home. NEVER SAW MY PARENTS LIE TO EACHOTHER (they are both preachers that might got somethin to do with that part) and they raised 2 wonderful black educated men. but for the most part i guess guys dont have anything to learn from nowadays so you might have just answered my questions to why there are not any real men left outside of my father brother uncles and 2 cousins! THANK YOU

Answer 9

No, it all depends on the way both/one parents loved and cared for their kid growing up and the way they taught them how to act and how strict they were on both sides of moms and dads

Answer 10

Ja Mama