So my friend had a crush on me and we went to the valentine dance and danced with eachother. Well all my friends were like 'His hands were on your butt. They're supposed to be on your waist.' Well he asked me out later in the week and all my friends were like 'If you don't go out with him, you can't hang with us. So i got ticked off and finally said yes. Now im stuck with an ugly guy and friends who thinks hes cute. And i haven't even been surfing with the guy yet. Thats what i do with all my friends especially the boys. Well Kasey isn't acting himself since i've been going out with Chris. Do you think he likes me and what should i do? Please help me.
2007-02-27 09:19:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Markietta; the first sign of maturity is to make up your own mind and to refuse to allow "friends" to coerce you in ANY way. Now, what possible motive would these so called friends have to want to see you linked to someone you see as unattractive? And what if these same "friends" told you that you had to do drugs or drink alcohol in order to be their friends? Do you really believe that they are looking after your welfare? And the "friend" who stated that if you don't go out with a certain person that you will be denied their friendship is employing bully tactics. You are not obligated to go out with anyone and by doing so, you are giving these friends power over you. Stand up for yourself. Develop assertiveness skills and speak your mind. If you lose their friendship over it; they do not deserve yours.
2007-02-27 09:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously...grow a backbone! If your friendships and life are based on following other people's whims or desires, 10 years from now you will be a very miserable person. Discover what you like and go for it. Don't waste your time being miserable with drama. You will have plenty of it over the course of your life. If you don't like this guy let him down gently and move on. He doesn't deserve to be treated poorly because you can't figure out what you want.
2007-02-27 09:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by angelgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they aren't real friends if they don't respect you enough to accept you are not interested in the guy. Not to sound like your mother but if your friends said you couldn't hang with them if you don't jump off a bridge, would you jump of the bridge? Think about it. You need to show the guy some respect and tell him he's not your type and if you friend give you a hard time tell them to find someone else to push around.
2007-02-27 09:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to give into your friends like that then you will have a long miserable life. you have to give into yourself and if no one likes that then to hell with them. You know what you want and what you like and don't let anyone try to influence you otherwise. Do it for yourself because in the end you are the only one that matters. If your friends don't like it then there are other people out there who would not have a problem with it. Real friends are people who like you for yourself, not who they think you should be.
2007-02-27 09:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by altariela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ight, all u can do is provide it a attempt. be up front with him. surely i think of he likes u in simple terms because of the fact the indisputable fact that his sister mentioned so. why could she lie? and the completed him gettin a woman buddy ingredient, i think of he did that to work out what ur reaction could be. he needs u to be jealous, because of the fact hes thinkin that if u get jealous then ull make a flow on him. juss ask him to the movies, or out ta consume or somethin like that, and notice the place issues pass from there. if u sense like ur connecting then pop the question. in simple terms ask him how he rather feels approximately u and if he could desire to image you 2 as a pair. i no its gonna sense a lil strange for u, yet hi... what if it seems for the perfect? and if he says he in basic terms sees u as a chum (which i doubt is gonn take place) then juss say ok, and settle for it. im advantageous that if hes fairly ur frined, he will understand and nonetheless opt for to have a chum deliver with u. yet i gotta feeling that theres gonna be extra advantageous than a chum deliver :) stable lck
2016-10-02 02:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...first of you need to evaluate your friendships because nobody should pressure you to date someone you don't want too. Second of all...you need to do better under peer pressure. Iknow we all need friends but we need the right kind of friends who will support you. And as far as kasey goes...who knows.
2007-02-27 09:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on...do you want your girlfriends to wipe your butt for you too...? Really, if you have no interest then why waste your time on some guy? Don't let your friends control you with what "THEY" think is best for you. You know what is best for you.
2007-02-27 09:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ditch the friends... if they want you to be dating someone that you arent ready for then y be thier friend...of course i kno how hard it is to ditch ur friends so maybe talk to him and tell him that you want to be friends and that everyone is bugging you to date him that way maybe he will understand and move on....workedd for mee
2007-02-27 09:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the ugly guy and your friends
2007-02-27 09:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, then tell the truth.
And do let any guy touch you like that, that's wrong. Even I know that.
2007-02-27 09:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Willy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋