How does one deal with a control freak. I so wish to be widowed, I can't tell you how much. I am 70 and have put up with this baby/child/control freaking frigging husband for 35 years..ahhhhhhhhgggggggh
2007-02-27 09:04:36 · 19 answers · asked by Angelfish 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
70 is the new 50 : ) You deserve to have an enjoyable life....if you are conciously wishing for his death, I would say it's time to leave. The kids & grandkids (if there are any) will get over it. If you are unable to separate, for whatever reason, start taking time for yourself and standing up for yourself. Providing there is no abuse, the worse that can happen is he will have to adjust...or he will leave you. Either way, you will be getting at least some of your needs met instead of living your life for him.
2007-02-27 09:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
35 years, I think you served your time (JAIL). Imagine yourself alone in a condo or an apartment or even a small house with nothing but PEACE and QUIET. Your life is coming to an end at anytime and wouldn't you rather leave this world in piece? Your remaining life can be with new friends, family and BINGO. You know, fun stuff and things you have been wanting to do for years that you couldn't do because of your so called husband. I tell you, he will be the death of you so go ahead and do what needs to be done.
Ask yourself: WHY NOT ME?
Enjoy your remaining life Miss ahhhhhhhhgggggggh.
2007-02-27 17:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even after 35 years it's not to late to leave 70 now days is like being 50, tell him that and go.
2007-02-27 17:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound to blunt but I would have put a stop to that behaviour years ago by not pampering to his every whim, my husband was like that until he realised if he wanted anythink he had to do it himself. What I would do now is to start by letting him know how you feel and that you are a person in your own right and would like to have a life. Then go out and join some groups and go on from there. I hope that helps you. All the best
2007-02-27 17:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by hctibbkwrds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to decide whether the REST of your LIFE is worth being controlled. You have been married for a long time. Do you want to live the rest of your life under control or do you want to be free to do your own thing? The decision is yours. You can not change someone they have to want to change themselves. Have you tried talking to your controlling husband. I guess you can always take him on the "Maury Povich Show" and let Maury and Dee West take care of your controlling husband for you.
2007-02-27 17:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ultimaltey have control over YOU - the only way to deal with a control freak is to maintain control. However, be careful what you wish for - our mouths (and keyboards) have power you have no idea about.
Didn't you know he was this way to begin with????
2007-02-27 17:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by painterswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him control you. You can put a stop to it.
Get to a marriage councelor and get some good advice.
I don't think you need to divorce him, but you can have control over your own life and do what you want, without his permission. If he gets physical with you then you have a reason to divorce him or restrain him. (maybe get a big metal bat) just in case. Good luck to you.
Alonei
2007-02-27 17:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are still young at 70,do you have any time to yourself? if not why don't you join some clubs and start meeting up with a few friends,i assume you don't have any other babies ( apart from your husband)who is quite able to look after his self, so get out on your own and start living you still have a long life ahead of you and you only get one life your a long time dead.so start living.
2007-02-27 17:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You better hope nothing happens to him. This question will make you the first suspect! Oh yea the spouse is always the first person they suspect. Now I know why.
I know you are pissed at this moment but after 35 years you would miss the bastard if you divorced him.
2007-02-27 17:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've spent all your married life allowing things to just take their place in your now very unhappy life....you're still sitting back & waiting for something else to occur in your life....the death of your husband....I understand exactly where you're coming from but honestly sweetheart, it's about time you finally stood up for yourself & took that control of your life back again don't you think?
All the time you've spent hoping things will improve, they haven't....what makes you think they will now? only when you finally realise that you & no one else is in control of your future will you finally be able to take for yourself a little happiness.
The trains been in the station for a very long time waiting for you to board it.........Hurry up Babe, before the train leaves......
2007-02-27 18:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋