If so, how did you cope with it?
2007-02-27 08:56:22 · 14 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think some of these answerers need to think back to those first few weeks...I wouldn't call it regret as much as worry. I worried if we really meant to have a baby. We didn't know what it really was. No one can ever prepare you for how much work it is in those first few days home. I LOVE MY DAUGHTER but I miss my old life too. It's just adjustment. I can tell you when she smiles...I have no worry, no questions....this is what I was meant to do, be her mom!
2007-02-27 09:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by cheleshan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, never regretted it, I'm so glad that I waited until I had a little bit of education (I'm nowhere near finished but at least I got a class or two in so that it's easier for me to go back). My sister's both had their kids at around 15 years old so having mine at 20, while it may seem really young for others, was the perfect time for me. If you are having a hard time coping with it, what I would suggest is getting a babysitter at least once a week and having a night out on the town so that you can still have some experiences that you're missing, and also you could seek some counseling, it's really hard sometimes having kids at a young age and for the most part, people don't regret their kids, they regret not having the chance to experience certain aspects of life, good luck!
2007-02-27 09:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me just say I am 20 years old and I have a 23 month old and a 4 month old! My life is very hectic at times and to be totally honest with yes there have been times when I thought gosh how would my life have been if i waited untill I was older to have kids? Or I wish I could have one kid free weekend...And that never lasts long! I realize that I have my two beautiful girls for a reason and they have made me a stronger and more loving person since having them! I would not have gone through the trials and tribulations that I have needed to make it in this world! And it is still hard everyday but I would not take them back and I would not change one thing about my life! I love my girls more and more every day I watch them grow and I get stronger everyday that I am with them! Something that can help you cope with these feelings is talking about it to someone with similar feelings always have a personal life seperate from your children and dont let other peoples opions get the best of you! And most important be the best mother you can be! By your own standards not anyone elses!
2007-02-27 09:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say I have any regrets in life. Rather it was a bad or good experience, I learned something from it. Sounds like you are in a tough spot. Well ok, I am sure I have had slight moments where I have regretted having my kids so young. I had them at 16 & 18. Now I am 32 & have thought about having another one since I am at the age to actually understand & enjoy being pregnant. But it's like heck mine are 14 & 16 now. I am NOT starting over. I will wait for grand kids. Some say that those of us who have their kids young, really live and sometimes go wild once they are grown. So I guess you either have them young & then have a life or you have a life & then have kids. I do know my goal right now is to get my kids raised with decent educations so they will not struggle like I did back when they were young. I know there are times we wanna tape their mouths (Not really people), but we love them so much. Believe me I have those times, but I brought them into this world so I gotta take care of them. And try to keep them involved in school activities to keep them out of trouble.
2007-02-27 09:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by With My Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly where you are coming from. Yes, on occasion, I have wished that I didn't have children. I have an 18 yr old and a 10 yr old. When I get in this state of mind, I just remind myself that the 18yr old will be moving out within a year or so and then I'll only have about 9 more years before the 10 yr leaves home and I'll have the house all to myself.
2007-02-27 09:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child when I was 16, pregnant at 15. I had 2 pregnancies in between one a miscarriage and one died the day after he was born we had our son when i was 20. We have been married almost 21 years. I have NEVER had a regret of having my kids at the ages I had them. When I was 21 I had an emergency hysterectomy. So I guess GOD acts in mysterious ways.
2007-02-27 09:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not my kids are my life. I had my first when I was 18 a little young but I wouldn't change him for the world. my second I was 26 much more mature I'll admit. The only thing I regret is the father of my first baby.
2007-02-27 09:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I've had 5 and while I may have regretted some of the things they've done over the years I have never for one second regretted having any of them.
2007-02-27 08:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that I regret having my son as young as I did...PG at 17. If I could do things over I would have waited a few more years but I wouldn't give him or my daughter up for anything. When I do start to feel that way though, I go over and hug my son and tell him how much I love him and it makes me remember that it was all worth it
2007-02-27 09:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by Robyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Children are a blessing. Many people and I have had thoughts that maybe I should have waited or did things another way, but I only get like that when things are not going so good for me. So, basically that is my problem not my child. I never regret having my children. I love them too too much! Just start setting goals for yourself and see how they can work into your schedule. Don't give up. Anything that you want to do still can be accoumplished. You must have patients, passion, God and love! All things are possible threw Christ Jesus. Be happy!
2007-02-27 09:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Key Key 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋