The man I love moved away for a job a little over a year ago, I love him so much it kills me. Well financially he could not make it so he moves in with this lady. ( Yeah) Well he continued to call me everyday and tell me he loved me and was looking for another job further north or maybe back here about 3 hrs from here. Well he is with this woman and I feel i need to let him go but it is tearing me up inside to do this. I have a daughter here in school and thats why I didn't move 500 miles away. Well I just feel that he and this lady are a lot closer than he says, he said he would never love anyone the way he loves me but he can't call only when he is on his way to work and home and maybe at lunch. I feel so like he has moved on but we talk almost everyday on the phone. He sent me something for Valentines Day telling me I had his heart around my finger but he didn't call this weekend and I haven't called him all week. How do I walk away or do I need to?
2007-02-27 08:46:13 · 16 answers · asked by BC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you can't talk to him while he is at home then there is a lot more going on.... I think the 1st thing to do is talk to him and ask him... if that is not possible or you feel as if he still lying to you, then move on... it will be hard yes, but once you set it in your heart and you get out there and start seeing other people... you will soon see that there is something better for you out there.
2007-02-27 08:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not mean to hurt you any more than you already feel, but i feel that in order for me to help i must be truthful. You already have the answer of what you need to do but you just want to be encouraged to do so. Well baby, I am encouraging you to tell el-jerko to stop stringing you along. Of course he has a relationship with this woman, how dare he underestimate your intelligence.Also he is not telling you the truth because if he can't use this other woman any more, he wants to feel as though he can hop back into your life and use you some more. I feel as though he already knew this lady before moving away. As you stated that you feel that he and this woman are a lot closer than he says, instincts are normally correct. You have a daughter and yourself to be concerned about, take your mind off of the jerk and be open for positive experiences and relationships. Move forward and think your lucky stars that you did not make a drastic move because he appears to be a user to me. I love this song "Drop That Zero and Get yourself a Hero". It is a song but I am sure that you get what it is saying. Be srong and encourage yourself for you and your daughters sake, you both deserve better.
2007-02-27 09:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's eating you up because you haven't asked him for the truth. You are seeking the councel of strangers and your man doesn't even know that you are questioning your ability to trust him or remain in the relationship. You need to tell him how you are feeling and what it is doing to you, then ask him the questions that are swirling around in your head. Atleast you will have peace of mind. We are our own worst enemies, once we think of one bad thing, we let it grow until everything looks so bad and if we would have just asked the questions, life would have been so much better.
2007-02-27 08:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to walk away...You need to RUN!!! You have a daughter and are worried about some guy who moved away can't even support himself and on top of that is probably sleeping with his new "roommate". C'mon use you head and find someone else. You may have feelings but think about your daughter.
2007-02-27 08:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by struck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be!
If he could leave you and right away live with another woman, he don't love anyone but himself. You and your daughter deserve someone who will honestly and truthfully love and RESPECT you both.
Don't hang on to something that has already come to an end.
You are a better person than that.
Best of Luck!!!!!
2007-02-27 08:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by karenpghblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to walk away. If his heart was truly around your finger, he'd MAKE time to be with you and be able to talk with you. If the financial issues were not a problem for you and you were willing to make it work, obviously you felt stronger about the relationship than he did...
2007-02-27 08:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by blamb! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to run not walk. Hes moved on but keeps you for insurance. Dont you think that he told the other one he loves her too-they LIVE together. Stay where you are, hug your daughter and be glad you dodged a bullet when this guy left town
2007-02-27 08:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would have moved with this jerk you would have been more tore up than you are now. What is wrong with you?Question yourself why you did not see it coming. That's what you do. You deserve better than this bull shyt. This dude is playing games. A man should not make or break you. They should add to what you already have, RIGHT?
SO...Walk! Girl... Put on your pumps and WALK!!!He can be a looser by his damn self :)
2007-02-27 09:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away for now. If he ever comes back then maybe u can start something up again. right now, he's too far away and if he is living with another woman then he's probably seeing her . its just too much temptation for im not to.
2007-02-27 08:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by shadowdarkness22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? Get a clue!!! He is screwing the woman he moved in with. If you don't want to believe me, then ask another someone else.
2007-02-27 08:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋