my son was born premature and is in the 8th grade. he has been behind developmentally for years now. all he does is play video games and argue with his brother. i still have to help him with his hygeine, and picking out his clothes. in may hell
be 16yrs old. he has no interest in getting a job or learning how to drive a car or any talks about his future. when i was 15 i was ready to move out drive a car and get married , those were my dreams. is he still behind from the other 15 to 16 yr old boys now?
2007-02-27 08:31:01 · 20 answers · asked by pkuchick 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
How much was he coddled as a kid? How much was he sheltered from the real world just because he was born premature? It is those very first few years of life that determine what your future drives and desires are going to be like.
Since he is going to be a couch potato, he may be best suited to be sent off to college out of state. Send him to "Full Sail" in Florida - maybe he can put his knowledge of video games to good use and make video games, or become a video producer or something like that.
You never know...
2007-02-27 08:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls are different than boys so you cant base this off of what you were feeling at the time. boys dont mature as fast as girls.
my nephew is 15, he doesnt care if his clothes match, he doesnt care if he takes a shower or not, he spends all day and all night playin video games, and fighting with his brother. so your son sounds like he is doing just fine! Driving can be a scary thing. he might just be nervous about learning to drive. if he is doing okay in school, and he has friends, then i am SURE he is developing at just the right rate.
2007-02-27 16:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by <3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does he have an I.E.P. at school?? They should be preparing him and you for these things. My daughter is 14 and autistic. I turn the TV off and just stand and wait ...she gets tired of being started at and does what she is supposed to. IE..bathing, teeth brushing, cleaning up her room,etc. I know it is hard but do you want to be supporting him and picking out his clothes when he is 30? As for being behind......My youngest is the same way as your son and he is in the gifted classes.. Take the TV and games away. You will be surprised how fast he does what he is supposed to so he can get those privileges back. Every kid is different though.
2007-02-27 16:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that each boy develops at his own pace, and that boys develop more slowly than girls. But just like toys and books help babies develop -- jobs, hobbies, and interests help adolescents develop. It sounds like your son could use a little more motivation and responsibility to help him grow into himself.
He needs a more constructive interest than video games; require him to choose any one activity, club, sport, or skill to pursue, so he has something to work on. He should also take charge of some chores around the house. As you give him more responsibility, he may learn to take better care of himself.
You might also want to ask his school counselor or teachers whether there are any enrichment programs at school to help him broaden his horizons.
2007-02-27 17:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by llemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you're 14, you don't have a big difference from most adults. It could be the cause of that you had a son at 15, but that isn't out of the ordinary. Even if you were 22, you still could have had him premature. Was your pregnancy 9 months? w/b - TRUST CHICKADEE
2007-02-27 16:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Chickadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a normal teenage boy, and all boys develop at different stages. Video games are good on one hand with eye hand coordination and memory etc, but too much cannot be a good thing but get him out doing other things, what about karate, swimming, or other sports.
Like I think about my own son - he will know what he wants by the time he is 30 :)
2007-02-27 16:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tezer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal 15 yr olds act like jackasses. No forward looking...think they are the smartest in the world...Yours sounds normal to me. I am the tired mother of 5 boys and 2 girls. My last and youngest is now 15 so I have been through it all!!! Good Luck
2007-02-27 16:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was premature by almost 8 weeks and know she is 9 and very well developed maybe over developed, she does have peoblems reading and the hygene thing. but it really sounds like your son is just a typical 15 yo today. they are all lazy and wanna play vidio games rather than move
2007-02-27 17:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by sckenpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems normal to me to. MEn are different from women when growing up so right now he is still at a stage where he is trying to find himself and other things he might like to do. Be very open and attentive with him though because boys at that age will run wild if you dont watch them
2007-02-27 16:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tonio W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away the video games. I'm not joking, either. Constant video games are sooo bad for kids. He needs to focus his attention on other things, then you will really be able to tell how developmentally developed he is.
2007-02-27 16:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋