DON'T give up your virginity until you're older.
I know from expirience, its a bad choice. I'm 15, and my ex boyfriend dumped me sunday night. We were together for 5 months, and serious. He bought be an expensive promise ring, we talked about moving in, and our future together, and i really felt like he was the one. I made the mistake of having sex with him, and giving him my virginity. I thought he was the one i was going to be with forever! You can't blame me, he put on a good act. Sunday night, he dumped me and told me that he "stopped loving me", those feelings just "started to fade." Imagine how used i feel? You might say, "my boyfriend is different, he really is sincere." Yeah. Thats what i thought about him. Damn, i thought he was more perfect than you could ever think your boyfriend is. But the truth is..no one knows what they want forever at this age. People grow, people change, and now i see why adults always say save it until you're older, but now i wish i had listened.
2007-02-27 08:25:14 · 34 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, I was 22 when i learned the hard way. That seems old but I was just a kid looking back and I believed and trusted with my whole being. I even kept a picture of him in my blouse pocket and kissed it. That is how silly and young I was, thinking he was my prince etc. I learned to hard way as most women do. It is far more tragic that you are just a young girl and not a young woman like I was. The greatest tragedy, is that the prince eventually does show up, but your heart is forever changed and you will lose out if you do not mature from this and wise up. Wisdom and good judgement are gifts. Why don't you try to enjoy the rest of your teens and be a kid. Go to movies, dance, talk with friends and leave the heavy stuff for when you are just a bit older. Youth is also a gift and it is over in the bat of an eye.
2007-02-27 08:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know this just as well as you do. A friend of mine thought she was dating "the one" and gave him her virginity after a week of dating, because she said that he would break up with her otherwise (don't ask me how she came up with the idea that he was "the one"). Anyway, he finally made her pregnant, and then when her parents wouldn't let her get an abortion and she told the guy that he would have to support her through this time, he stabbed her and she's now in critical condition (she's had a miscarriage too). Everyone when ur a teen seems like "the one", but tis always hard to tell, most guys are all after the same thing. You should wait till your older and then find the real deal. I'm extremely sorry you had to learn the hard way, I feel your pain. Get yourself tested for STDS/STI's and pregnancy, and then learn from yuor mistakes and wait till your older. You'll find the whole experience much more rewarding. Good luck!
2007-02-27 08:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by PiNk IcE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately yes!!! It is never a good Idea to have sex when you are young. I lost my virginity when I was 17 but I wish I had been more religious or something and waited untill I was married or at least engaged. I am currently 21 and I have only had 3 partners. I am still with my third, we are engaged, we have been together almost four years, and we have two childeren with one on the way. Oh and of course we live together and have since we've been together. The best way to get to know some one and know if they really love you for you is to move in with them. I give it a month and you will know if he's in it for the long run or just wants some booty!
2007-02-27 08:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Camarolover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for the loss you are feeling...I think you might be more sad about losing your virginity than the boyfriend. Yes, sometime you take the risk when yo make the choice. Nothing as far as relationships are concerned are certain or promised....even when you are older.
Try not to beat yourself up....you made a choice and it didn't end up with the result you wanted...it feels sad and you feel cheated but it isn't the end of the world...it just makes you wiser.In the future you will use this experience to help you make decisions for yourself....and believe those choice will be better because of this experience.
I have been telling my girls ( 12 &13) that when it comes to sex....a girls is damned if she does and damned if she doesn't!! That is a truth that has remained since relationships started. I personally recommend that they hold out...but really all I can do is hope they are patient with their choices and safe!!!
2007-02-27 08:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We're humans we make mistakes at times. I'm sorry you had to learn this the hard way. Be thankful, atleast you learned something out of this and not to give out the cookies until you take your vows. Look at the bright side, better now then years down the road caring for yourself and little ones.
and I'm proud of you for posting your personal story, who knows you might have helped someone in here. I wish you all the best baby, God bless your heart.
2007-02-27 08:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Hyatt A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex because you choose to have sex, not because you think it will make your boyfriend keep loving you or because you think you will be with him forever.
I lost my virginity at 14 and am now 26. I don't regret it at all. Are there some things I did as a teen that I regret? Sure. But honestly sex is just sex.
Obviously you thought you were exchanging sex for something as you feel used. You need to look at your motivations. You need to really assess whether you base your sense of self-worth internally or on other people. Because if you are basing it on others you are in for a miserable life, and opening yourself up for abuse.
You didn't give him your virginity you gave up your virginity. It isn't a gift that you give anyone. Just like the first time you drink, or the first time you ride a horse. It is just an experience.
2007-02-27 08:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I am glad you found this out at a young age but you had to give up your virginity to figure this out. Boys at this age are not looking for anything long term they are just feeling their needs of wanting to have sex and add another notch to their belt.
Girls at 15, 16, 17 are just to young to make such big decisions that affect the rest of your life. Remember guys will say anything and everything to get you into bed. If you say no and they stay around then they might be true.
2007-02-27 08:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by schell_75 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Thank you for sharing that with all the young women here. More advice on the subject, no matter how old you get, men will act the same way. I'm 34 and they still play all the same games. Just be careful who you give your love to and make sure the next time you love like you haven't been hurt before.
2007-02-27 08:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree! 15 is WAY too young to make a commitment. It's not that people always purposely use someone, they just aren't mature enough to know what they want. Even when you're older, people change. Make sure you're not going to regret the decision, even if things don't work out in the long run and DEFINITELY use condoms if you're going to have sex! You don't want an STD or to get pregnant!
2007-02-27 08:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
being that you are 15. i would recommend not looking for a life partner just yet. don't get to stuck in worrying about finding a husband. have fun don't be a hoe and when you least expect it that special someone will come around. Try playing it slow and five months is not slow, and this is comming from a guy. Be young, have fun, live without regrets this is the best time of your life.
2007-02-27 08:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋