want to contact brother.?

Question

I am 15, and have a 37 year olf half brother. My dad won't speak of him after what he did, but I have wanted to get in contact for some time now. There is a little thing in the local paper, as his mum has just died. I could contact the funeral service and get his details, and get in contact, do you think I should or just forget about him. I don't think he knows I exist, and it would open the wounds between him and my dad, and if my dad ever found he would never speak to me again, but i really want to contact him. Should I?

Answer 1

i dont think the funeral directors will give you his details to be honest. is there no-one that knows both yourself and your brother that could you details on him ? i really dont think it is a good idea to turn up at the funeral as he will not need that if he doesnt know you exist. as for your own dad, then maybe you should tell him you are planning to make contact with your brother and you would like him to agree with it. its up to you what you do and i wish you the best outcome on whatever you decide to do.

Answer 2

I think it would be a good thing for you to try to get to know your half brother. You should still take into consideration your dads feelings and why it was they stopped talking in the first place but don't let that stop you if you decide that is what you really want to do. Have a really good think about it before you come to any decision and if you decide to go for it then take it slowly, just showing up at his door and just blurting it out, especially as his mum has just passed away, that could do more harm than good. My mum is in her 50's and was fostered as a very small baby and that is the family she spent her life with. Very recently (just by chance) she came across her neice, the daughter of the sister she had never met. Between themselves they confirmed they really were sisters and now have a great relationship. My auntie never knew my mum exsisted but is very happy they have found each other. I hope whatever you decide to do works out for you. Good luck

Answer 3

The funeral services may not give you his details, but how about giving them yours so he can contact you, at least it'll give him a chance to get used to the idea if you unsure he knows of your existance

I think you need to do hat is best for you. In my opinion I would attempt to make contact but don't be so sure that your dad would never speak to you again family is the closest thing to you and you could find that your brother needs someone after the loss of his mum i.e. one door closes and another opens, not the best way of putting it but he could find he has more family that he doesn't even know about

If he doesn't know about you then you can't exactly leave it to him to make the contact, you've been given the chance to find family and he hasn't, before deciding consider this and ask yourself if your going to discard that opportunity. I think you should tel your dad what your planing to do before doing it, but don't let him discourage you from doing what you want, I think your old enough to decide whether or not your going to make contact with your brother and you seem mature enough to be doing it

Good luck and I hope this helps

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your Dad will speak to you again for a start. The grievance is between your Dad and brother - NOT YOU!!!

Ask you Dad if he'd help you get in touch - explain it is important to you (that way he can't be angry if he finds out 2nd hand - he already knows!)
Sometimes it takes someone strong to bring you Dad and brother back into each others lives (ok I don't know what happened - I just keep thinking LIFE IS TOO SHORT)

If you want to contact him then DO!!!

Good luck with you search. It will be hard and difficult but KEEP PURSUING this if that;s what you REALLY want. Don't let others put you off.

DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!!

Answer 6

if its means alot to you to contact him then yes you should is there no one else in the family that can shed some light on your brother as your dad wont talk about him

Answer 7

tell your dad. he cant stop you and he may be upset, but at least it will all be out in the open. It would be harder for your dad to deal with if you went behind his back and found out later

Answer 8

yes familys family

Answer 9

Yeah,I think you should =]