is planning your future with your boyfriend, a crazy idea? or is it a good thing?
2007-02-27 08:04:27 · 43 answers · asked by Alanna Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
they say 90% of all divorses come from those who marry their high school sweet hearts i was with mine for 8 1/2 years till we decided to split your still young and i can tell you for a fact you wont be the same person you are now in 10-15 years i think the perfect time to start thinking about settling down is mid to late 20's anything before you havent lived enough to know anything
you really need that 19-24 time to travel the world and figure out who you are without your freinds and family and bf's and school you need to go somewhere brand new where you dont know anyone thats how you'll really figure out who you are from starting from sctrach with no past only the future cuase right now you already have this idea of who you are based on that your so and so's girlfreinds and daughter of jim and jane and that you were a (fil in blank here) in high school all of these things help you figure out your place in your town or community that you where raised in but dont you fell that theres more to life than that? i suggest you try going out into the world BY YOURSELF
to really figure out who you are with out all of that other stuff , he maybe a great guy but if he loved you he'd understand i let my g/f
take off and go to europe by her self for 4 months so she could have a life of her own as well maybe you should talk about doing somthing like this before you speak of marriage and also WHATS the RUSH? why worry about it if you guys are really going to be together forever why get married so young think
about it at the very least you should be out of school and together for a long time first and do those things together if need be you dont want to get married yet thats for sure cuase in 3 years you'll have a kid and then your life and a young person is offically over
you think i joke kid you not seen it with all of my freinds the biggest roughest party animals have been tamed by a 3lb 5 oz
bundle of skin and it will happen to you as well BE YOUNG FIRST
2007-02-27 08:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. I'm still with my boyfriend from highschool and it's great because we have such a deep understanding of each other. We started going out my sophomore year in Highschool (he's one year older) and it's been almost 4 years. Highschool sweethearts have a probability of 1/1000 to be still together after highschool. It makes you feel special when you're still with him.
Planning your future with your boyfriend is definitely a good thing when you're both committed in a relationship. Not only can you two work out an ideal future goal, you can work TOGETHER towards that goal. As people its vital to be goal oriented. As couples it gives you a better understanding as to what you both want. And being able to compromise will only bring you two closer. Because believe me, the future comes full speed and having someone there all the time behind you is a great thing.
Good luck dear :)
2007-02-27 08:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by iQuestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're BOTH totally committed to one another then it's not crazy; however, ending up with your high school sweetheart for the rest of your life is very very rare.
I married my high school sweetheart's best friend! We've been together for 10 years now, married for 6 years, and have a 19 month old.
As for the high school sweetheart, he moved to another state and met someone else.
2007-02-27 08:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a great thing. Even if you don't know many people who've married their high school boyfriends or girlfriends, don't let that put you off. Think about it, you could have met this person five years from now and felt the same way about them and naturally planned for the future because you were a little older. So, also think about the future if you think it's serious enough!!!
2007-02-27 08:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Phantom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sort of!! I was ending my junior year of high school when we met, but he was 21 and out of high school. So, I call him my high school sweetheart, and he says that he never had a high school sweetheart. We've been together almost ten years now, and married for four months.
It is definitely possible, but the best advice I can give you is concentrate one what will make YOU a great life as an adult, like following your dreams for a career like getting a college degree and such. I went to college for six years and have a great career now. I also played softball while in college. He was right there with me every step of the way, as one of my biggest supporters, wanting me to succeed just as much as I did. Now we both benefit because I have a great paying job that affords us a nice life!
2007-02-28 07:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can happen. my best friends sister is married to her hs sweetheart. not sure how long they have been together but i think she was class of 96 or something. planning a future with a bf is not a bad idea, just to see if you guys are thinking the same things... but some guys who are commitment phobes can get scared off... for instance, my bf got all crazy when we first started dating when i brought up the number comfort bed thing... and now that more than a year has passed he is more comfortable talking about our future. i think it has to do with time so dont scare him off. =]
2007-02-27 08:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by japzkyootipie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not crazy but you may not be with the same guy in the future. I married my high school sweetheart.
2007-03-01 04:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kala C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sure did! we have been together since the 7th grade that is almost 12 years now and we have been married for almost 3 we just bought a house and we have 2 dogs a nice little family! we had our differences while in highschool and dated around in the middle but always went back to each other! we had always planned on being together for the rest of our lives and still do! I ♥ him!
2007-02-27 08:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thank God.
I have two sets of friends who wed high school sweethearts. One is doing fine...but they broke up for 2 years in the middle. (They've been out of HS for 10 years.) The other pair have never been with anyone else ever. They've been married for two years, and are headed for divorce. The problem is that they never got to grow up, experiment, and learn who they were and what they wanted in life. It's a shame.
2007-02-27 08:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated lots in HS but never had a HS sweetheart. So no, I didn't marry anyone from my school days.
As for your question about planning your future with your bf, it's a very personal decision. The vast majority of young people do not stay with their HS bf or gf. Those that do, and subsequently marry their sweetheart at a young age, usually get divorced. Only a few make it -- but you 2 could be one of those few!
2007-02-27 08:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋