Should I get an abortion?

Question

Like I mean on my own without my parents knowing as i'm 15 :s Would they tell your parents. Don't know how far along I am but it's not to far - few weeks at the most.

Yeah ok so I had sex. But having sex and telling your parents you had sex is a totally different thing ok.

Answer 1

Hey kid seriously tell someone. I know if we havn't been through it we don't know what you are going through but if you really have to you should get an abortion. Don't listen to most people on here. 3 of my friends have had abortions and all of them came out healthy and in one pieceGood luck with what you choose x

Answer 2

You need to decide on ur own if u want an abortion or not. I went threw that before, when i thought i was pregnant i was freaking out me and my boyfriend studied up on it so much and we worried 24/7. The day i got my period was the best day of my life. ha i never ever thought id ever get so happy with just having my period. but anyways. If u do know for sure ur pregnant then think about everything. If u do follow threw and have your child, then u will probablly have to drop out of school. get a job if u dont already have one, try and save some money up but its guna be hard. Then theres abortion. Which everyone thinks is such a horrile thing i mean i think its bad but sometimes some opeople have to do it. and if u really feel like u need to then do it. im not sure about where u live or anything but i know near me (in toronto) there is a clinic that allows abortions to children over the age of 12 without parents knowing. Your parents whouldnt find out probablly because there is no realway you can. even if u go to your doctors like amonth later for a checkup they cannot tell. The only thing they might notice is a couple weeks of bleeding that will happen. Anyways i hope i helped and good luck. Dont listen to anyone who yells at you for your own desicions, i know how stress full it is. ( by the way im 16) lol Dont listen to all these people saying it will mess up ur life and studies show blah blah blah. If you need to you need to. OH and the procedure only takes about 3-4 minutes its not like a long time or anythjing

Answer 3

It's really a moral issue. If you are so afraid to tell your parents, then how would they be able to handle it if you decided against it? What harm could come from telling them? Would they not want to be a part of such a major decision in your life? You are going to need an adults help with this. Why do you think you've been told time after time that having sex at such a young age is NOT a good idea? It's because of the predicament you are in right now. Some young women have the maturity,and ability to actually handle this situation, but you have to consider the child first. Can you provide a stable, healthy environment? Will the Father be involved? So many questions that only you have the answers to. I feel for you, you put yourself in a position where you have to make grown-up choices, when you are still too young to understand the consequences of your actions. I wish you support and love from those around you to help you make the right choice, for yourself, and for your unborn baby.

Answer 4

I don't think they tell your parents, they are usually confidential.

Maybe you should talk to your mom first though... as hard as it may be to believe, parents understand more than you think. Just tell her that you are pregnant and you know you aren't ready for the baby, it's always easier with a little support or to get it off your chest.

Or even think about giving the baby up for adoption. A lot of people try to have babies for a long time and never succeed, it would be nice for someone to take care of the child, instead of aborting it.

Also, I would advise looking up some information on abortions and how they work, just so that you know what you are doing, and what is happening to the baby.

I'm not against abortions, and you are young, but there are many options and hiding it from your parents just seems hard to me, I know I would tell my mom!

Good luck with whatever happens!

Answer 5

First of all see your doctor, or if you are unable to do that please make an appointment at a family planning clinic. They will be able to explain to you what your options are, and give you advice. The main thing is to do this quickly, the longer you leave it the fewer choices you will have. Your parents would not have to know as you have patient confidentiality. I would advise that you should try and tell your parents or a trusted adult as if you choose to have a termination it will be tough emotionally and you will need some support. Also if this is what you choose, learn from it and use adequate contraception in the future and emergency contraception if you think your regular contraception hasn't worked for some reason. Good luck to you whatever you decide.

Answer 6

This is a really important desision to make and either way it will affect the rest of your life. It is one that only you can make, but you should make it for yourself - if you only want an abortion because your scared about what your parents might think or say if they find out you're pregnant then really think this through - they might be angry at first but they really won't be for long. If you're only a few weeks on then you do have more time to think about it. Try to find someone to talk it through with first - maybe there's a teacher you can trust or your dr might be able to refer you to someone to talk about it - they cannot tell your parents without your permission so don't worry about that. What ever you decide you will get lots of support either way (or should - if you don't let me know!). Don't rush in to anything - this is a big desision and no-one can make it for you - it's your body and your baby, no-one elses. Look after yourself - good luck xx

Answer 7

Please don't! Talk to your parents. If you think you were old enough to have sex, then you should be old enough to have a conversation, right? Just because you made a mistake doesn't mean an innocent child should die! Talk to your parents and figure something out. Put your baby up for adoption! There are plenty of couples waiting for a baby that they can't have!
Please don't do that to your child. Do you even know what happens during an abortion? It's very gruesome and I don't know how people could go through with one. The baby can feel, especially farther down the pregnancy, no matter what anyone says!
Talk to your parents. It will be hard, but you will be doing the right thing!

Answer 8

I would suggest sitting down with your parents and telling them, and discussing your options. Your parents will help decide what is best for you and the baby, likely adoption. If you have an abortion, what would they do if they found out? What if you had complications and HAD to tell them? While they may be upset and disappointed in your decision to engage in such activity at such a young age, they will respect you and see you as a more mature and responsible person than trying to hide something like this. They are your parents and only want what is best for you.

Answer 9

They won't tell, but I advise sitting down by yourself and thinking on it REALLY hard before you make a big decision like that. Then, whether your "partner" knows or not, tell him, and decide together. It's not a decision you can make in a second. It's a life changer and a life taker, so be careful and make your decision wisely and with much thought. Also, I suggest telling your parents. They will help you make the decision, and the reaction may be bad, but it will help in the long run and may refrain you from making a huge decision you will regret years from now. Good luck...sorry this had to happen. It's a bad situation.

Answer 10

Yes and No.
If you are going to keep the baby, you will suffer alot through pregnancy, morning sickness, becoming huge, out of shape, moody, nausea and ect. also labour is pretty difficult for a 15 year old lady. And you give it up for adoption, No, you only sacrifice yourself, 9 months of your best time, your body changes, strech marks & probabley be out of work and college. I don't believe you should sacrifice yourself for a baby of only a few weeks old, specially if you don't want to raise it up.

And if you want to keep the baby, well, you can suffer all those 9 months but at least you will have a baby daughter or son for a life time. However, the responsibilities of raising a child will change your life completely. You will become a mother, who is willing to do anything for the child, like less socialising and less sleep. You will have to do breast feeding, nappy changing, taking him/her to the hospital in the middle of the night if she/he is sick.

Also not only that, financially you'll suffer as well, you'll be less independant, less productive at work or maybe unable to find a job at all, because you have to be 24/7 stay at home mom. Or find a really high-paid job so that you could afford to live, to feed yourself and the baby, to pay for a nanny and basically to survive. If you are happy to be taken care of by the father of the child, if he will physically take the responsibility, or you are happy to be taken care of by your parents = less independance, maybe you will survive the first 3-4 years of your baby growing.

I am not trying to put you off, but for a 15 year old girl who will probabley not have a stable responsible guy to take care of her, it's too much responsibility. You still need to have fun, grow up yourself, experience the world, and be mature enough to educate your child. I beleive you have the same right of survival as the baby, so if you are going to be sacrificed, because of a "guilty feeling of abortion" for the sake of a baby, only a few weeks old, you have all the right of abortion.

However I must tell you, the guilt will stay with you forever and if you do the abortion, you'll never forget it. But still I think the baby has every right to be born in a perfect situation where the parents are mature enough and the financial situation is stable enough to support baby's requirements. The first 4-5 years of the baby's age are the most important years, and 80-90% of the personality is formed at that time. And how old will you be for that age: 16-19? You are still growing up. You are still to experience life and your own self and wants.

Do you really think you are ready to be a mother?

Answer 11

It's up to you, but I would really think about it. I know your young, but there are other options for you. There are so many people in the world that can't get pregnant and would love to have a baby. So, you could put the baby up for adoption. Or, you could keep it. Maybe your family could help you out. I know it must be a tough time for you right now, but think about the fact that you have something very precious inside of you now. A baby can bring such great joy to your life. There is nothing else in the world like having a baby. So, really think about it.