I have some very religous family members. And I would love for them to accept me for being gay. Any ideas.
2007-02-27 08:01:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just make sure theyre in the zone or mood to talk to you about this type of thing, if you don't think you can look at them in the face and say it, ask them to come shopping with you and look at things, like clothes and say it. So youre not face to face and being in public helps with the tension. I came out the easiest way. I joked about it, kind of, I said "haha. Yeah, she's hot." and my parents looked at me and said, "are you gay?" i told them yes and thank god they accepted it. So, however you do it, get it out, there's nothing worse than hiding who you are, and remember that family is always there for you and will love you no matter what. No matter how religious they are, they are still family. Don't stress about it. It will only make it worse.
2007-02-27 08:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ho boy! When dealing with family members who have the Sister-Bertha-Better-Than-You outlook on life, there's going to be harsh words spoken, and not just from them!!!! The best way is simply to find out first hand exactly HOW religious they are. Are they judgmental, condemning, the kind of person whom shouts out "you sinner!!!"? If they are, then what you need to do is let them know this is your life, not theirs if they don't like you for what you are and what you've just told them! Reminder them that ONLY G-D has the authority to judge and condemnn people! Plus, The Messiah said (sorry, I can't remember which books it's in, yet it's there!) to "love the sinner, hate the sin". In other words, they can only love you, they can't judge or condem you for what you are!! If they do, then (yes, it may be very painful) you will have to move on without them. Else, they will eventually bring you down so far into your own dark and depressing thoughts that you will unable to live! Just be polite and calm when you tell them. Have some answers ready for when they ask them. BREATHE!!!!!! Don't forget: Safe sex is the best sex!!
2007-02-27 16:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever anyone else in your family may say, you need to be comfortable in your own skin knowing that your lifestyle is right for you. I'm sure your family members love you but you have to brace yourself for the fact that they may not accept it. If they don't, remember that it's not because of you personally but the ideas and religious ideology they have been raised with. I was very fortunate that my parents are very open and accepting people. When I spoke to may father about coming out he said to me, "People don't have to understand but they can accept it". That means alot. If they can accept you, that's wonderful, but if some family members can't, you can't do anything about it but be happy knowing you made the right decision for yourself. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-27 16:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by musikchik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The organization P-FLAG can help you. Also, there is a lot of literature about coming out. The most important thing is the right attitude: be proud of what God made you to be and be condescending but respectful to people who are not intelligent enough to accept you.
2007-02-27 16:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find that people will only accept that which they are capable of. First and foremost you must speak through your actions and show them that you are the same person and not their perception. Speak openly about your feelings and show compassion towards theirs. Remember, you have made a life decision and not everyone will agree with it. Keep on being you and be proud of who you are, so believe in yourself and move forward !!! You can't be two people - - -I know,- I tried.
2007-02-27 16:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by johnnyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to get them to accept gay people first. You can ask them what they think of the basketball player who just came out for example. Challenge their assumptions.
Be prepared if they don't change, however.
2007-02-27 16:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) Treat them as you would like to be treated.
Don't judge them. Don't try to change them. Don't preach to them. Don't throw it their face (ie publicly kissing your partner passionately on purpose to upset them).
(2) Tolerance is a two-way street.
Don't expect them to tolerate you if you refuse to tolerate them.
(3) Tolerance before acceptance.
Acceptance might take years. Acceptance might not ever occur. Acceptance cannot be forced. Sometimes it occurs by those people you least expected to get it from and vice versa.
2007-02-27 16:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them. if they are truly peaple of god. they will love you the same and protect you even more . you are one of gods childern no one can take that from you. you are part of that family if they cant see that then they or more in to the devil then god.
2007-02-27 16:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by thewiseman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch your step and don't step in that mud puddle!And ignore the Dog Do do,Their foul of it.
2007-02-27 16:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them as soon as you can. My brother held it in for years and became an alchoholic and had a stroke.
2007-02-27 16:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋