my boyfriend dont ever wont kids i never wanted a child wen i got with him as i woz 19 and now i am nearly 23 and he is 33 on sunday i have asked him the other day if he would ever want a child and he said no i have told him i THINK i want to have a child with him and he said if i do want one he will think about it and now i THINK i would like a child to love and call my own instead of spoiling friends children but a THINKING of having one anit good enough so is there any one who could HELP plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
2007-02-27 08:00:22 · 15 answers · asked by x claire x 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i work full time 41 1/2 hours a week and my boyfriend does a little more than me and i have my own place i hope that helps a little more
2007-02-27 08:14:33 · update #1
i would never trick him just though i would let you no as i would no even dream of it its not in me to do that
2007-02-27 08:25:05 · update #2
I so think you should think about where he is coming from, but its about time for a 33 year old to start a family (if he hasnt already). Lifes too short, if you wont a baby and he doesnt then telll him how much you wont it, then we will thnk about wether is wonts this or not!! Like i said lifes too short, use it while you got it!! Plus, i am sure your family will help you out so much!! Good luck on your choice!! and come on Boyfriend say yes and start a family :D:D yay!!
Good luck to your future...
2007-02-27 08:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would say the decision is entirely up 2 you as you are a woman( remember we have the womb to carry children) Hence where the word wo-man comes from!!
Although I am not saying to trick him & get pregnant as soo many women do. The fact that he said he would think about it shows you that he is not inconsiderate to way you are feeling and that he does love you. As women we have maternal instincts and feel broody when we see children. No matter how much you spoil other peoples children it will never replace the emptiness you are feeling!
Thinking about having a child is the easy bit, practising making the child is sweetest bit, giving birth to the child is the hardest bit and watching the child grow up is the greatest bit!!
As long as you can both financially, emotionally and mentally can look after a child. I wish you the best of luck as long as he is not agreeing to have a child with you just to please you but to actually share the greatest thing on this earth together.
2007-02-28 05:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by moral Lulabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no one who could help. This is a personal decision. Some advice, though: consider marrying before you have a child. Children do better in stable homes. Of course, before you consider marrying, be sure this boyfriend is the right man for you. Be sure you agree on some of the big questions of life, such as whether to have children. Before you have children, consider whether you have achieved some of your goals that you won't be able to pursue easily once you are a parent: your education, your career. And once you have a child, be the best parents you can be, both of you.
2007-02-27 08:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think this through ALOT!! babies are great things, but its hard work. make sure its what your partner wants aswell. I dont think your too young though. Me and my partner were only 21 when we had our child and we'd only been together ten months. Our child is now nearly 4, my partners works full time, we have a lovely house and life couldnt be better. You must be sure this is what you want first though.
2007-02-27 08:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i think you need to THINK about it some more. do you have a job to support a child? also do you go to school? having kids and wanting kids is a diff thing. Wanting a kid just cuz you want to spoil it doesnt give you the right to just have one.
Having kids is very hard. You cant just switch off and on.
Make sure you have enough money to supoort your child and all the hospital bills. Also make sure you and your bf want it.
good luck
2007-02-27 08:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by namibunnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better make sure that you are "sure" you want a child, instead of just "thinking" you want one. Realize that you will have atleast 18 years of supporting one and putting it first. Also like the first answerer if he's not too thrilled about having one then be prepared to do most of the work yourself. But if you want one bad enough, then go for it...everyone who wants to be a parent deserves to...unless your 15, lol
2007-02-27 08:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by *<dEzI>* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound as though you could support a child and as long as you both agree in having one then i do not see any reason why you should wait any longer, make sure your boyfriend has completly made up his mind first though
2007-02-27 22:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by tracy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need your fella to back you 100% or don't even think about it cos kids are not just for spoiling ( in fact you shouldn't spoil them ) and they are a big responsibility and they need the love and care of two responsible parents. Please wait till he is fully commited to this . You have plenty of time yet.
2007-02-27 08:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will need more of a commitment from your boyfriend, he could say yes but when baby comes decide to jet. If he'll marry you, then I say go for it but always be prepared to do it alone.
2007-02-27 08:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a bit young still for kids. Why don't you get married and wait a few years, the idea might grow on him as he gets older.
2007-02-27 08:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋