I have been seeing this girl for some time now, but I'm worried she may have some kind of medical issue. When we have sex she says it hurts really bad and she often bleeds. She has a very high sex drive, and always wants it, but I'm not always happy with it. She often stops me and pushes me off, saying "try not to hurt me". I don't think that's normal , but she always says she's ok. I don't think this has anything to do with me, I think somethings not right with her and she should see a doctor. Am I wrong?, do other women bleed and hurt like this?
2007-02-27 07:56:25 · 17 answers · asked by Dane Cruz 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
No, she does'nt have any STD's. She has had cysts before!
2007-02-27 08:05:23 · update #1
she may have a problem with the cervix or cyst on the ovaries
2007-02-27 08:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have come accross two women like this. They don't bleed because I haven't gone in there at their say so. After a certain age some women seem to shrink, and get so dry they just can't take it. They will bleed if they are dry and you force yourself on them. Try just touching her and petting her without actually penetrating her, she will thank you for it. if you really love her you should be ok with that. I know it's a little frustrating, but that's what age does for you. You are not alone, and it's not your fault my love. How old is she??? You say girl, not woman! The other thing it could be is that she is actually still a virgin and has never had her hymen broken, and it has got quite thick now. Would know more if I knew her age.
Just thought, she may have something called vaginismus which is a psychological problem, in which case she needs to see a sex therapist.
2007-02-27 16:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, yeah, I know, I'm not a lady.. but I'll try to answer anyway.
My ex wife used to say the same kinds of things and would occasionally bleed after coitis.
My current wife never complains, so I doubt very heavily that it was caused by my skills or the lack thereof, but then my current wife is a lot more into changing positions and isn't afraid to let me know if she wants me to change something that I'm doing when I'm doing it, and I'm not afraid to do what I can for her when I'm doing it, wheras my ex wife was more of a let's-see-if-he-can-read-my-mind, one-position-fits-all kind of person.
Although I cannot prove it, and although my ex wife refused to tell me anything about it, I have a strong suspicion that my ex wife had been raped before she and I ever met, and if she was raped, and if she was injured, there could be a collection of scar tissue in all the wrong places, which could get in the way and could cause her some pain and bleeding.
It might not have anything to do at all with whether or not she was raped, but could be the result of some childhood infection or something.
I agree that the thing your partner should do is consult a gynecologist about it.
And, if she isn't all that willing to set an appointment, there is no harm in discussing your case in much greater detail with a gynecologist yourself.
You just have to be prepared for all the stares you'll get by being a single guy in the reception room of their clinic.
2007-02-27 16:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned, because as far as I know that's not normal or healthy. It may be something simple, like an issue of size, lubrication etc. or an allergy to the type of condoms you are using.
Or it could be a medical disorder. There is one (not sure of the name) which causes the suffers to experience extreme pain from vaginal stimulation.
Either way she should go see her doctor, and you should try and encourage her to do so. I don't want to suggest that you should withhold sex from her, but if this makes you uncomfortable, then you shouldn't have to go through with it either. It's not fair to you as well as her.
I hope that you can get this sorted out and soon. Sex is too much fun to miss out on.
Best of Luck!
2007-02-27 16:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have pain during sex at times (depending on the position) but I don't bleed. I have a medical problem but the gyno can't figure out why I'm having the pain, although I do believe it is because of my medical problem. Get her to go to the ob-gyno asap. There maybe something wrong and if there is be there for her, support her, she'll need it.
2007-02-27 17:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by toneslilsweettease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, this is not normal. Especially if she has this high sex drive that you mention. Sounds like she is not lubricating enough. You might want to try some of the new K-Y massaging oil that heats up...it's really nice. Is she fully relaxed when you are in her? If she is tight and scared of being hurt, all this could be working against her.
2007-02-27 16:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I think your right... .you should ask her to go see a doc or something... maybe you should ask her if shes had any like sergery down there and stuff... because thats kinda weird, ive never heard of anything like that... at least bleeding all the time like that... I could see on her period, close to it, if you havent done it in a long time, or if it was her first time....
but if shes a little nympho... maybe shes got soemthing and doesnt know it or realize it... ask her to get checked out for her well being and her own... tell her you'll go with her if she wants for support and what not
2007-02-27 16:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mindless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If she is under 20 - then it could be a serious problem of not being fully developed. If she's older - then it still could be an issue, but something simple like 'pulps', etc. She needs to see a doctor. Are you too 'big' for her? That could hurt too.
2007-02-27 16:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by curiousgeorgette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should see her doctor. Sex shouldnt be painful & cause bleeding. She could hve some type of female issues going on that she may not be aware of.
2007-02-27 16:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by leashell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not think that it is normal for your girlfriend to have pain every time you have sex or for that matter bleed every time. i do think that she should see a doctor and you should talk to your girlfriend about it, see how she feels. it would be more understandable if she just lost her virginity, but even if, i do not know any girls who have pain and bleeding, even if it has been there first couple of times.
2007-02-27 16:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont bleed but sex hurts for me sometimes to but my sex drive is high also. she needs to see a doctor asap
2007-02-27 16:10:20 · answer #11 · answered by Pie~Pie Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋