"I would leave him, I would leave him, his sorry --- if he ever had a affair. "Yeah, sure. We know better, don't we?
Weigh the advantages: I can be financially well off , don't have to share my kids, "have" him when I want and someone to help take care of the house rather than financially worse off, responsible for the kids and struggling.
Your mothers and grandmothers did it. You would do the same thing.
2007-02-27 07:56:18 · 16 answers · asked by jazz41 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't agree..
Left a cheating loser once. NO questions asked And it was so worth it.
2007-02-27 07:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
What is the worth of love over the material? If you had genuine love for your mate you would be more concerned why he/she have a need go outside the marriage to be fulfilled.
All the rigid responses speak toward general weakness of marriages in general. Thinking to leave your marriage is a strictly selfish response that may give some insight to why the transgression happened in the first place.
Now way in hell I would think of running out the door if the woman I loved had an affair. We are going to sit down and understand the events that lead to the transgression before anyone talks about leaving. It is a weak self-image that cannot separate a mate’s action from his or her own while taking ownership for their part of the transgression if there is any.
There are always to sides to every story, nothing happens is a vacuum, and there most often culpability on the other side. There are many ways to hurt a marriage. We just have a lot of charge on sexuality because of religious reasons, which drives this huge reaction with infidelity.
If there are children involved you have a greater obligation to the entire family to not throw an away a family under the same roof.
Why do we have words like forgiveness, acceptance, and understanding? It is a far greater act of love to give a spouse the opportunity to earn again your respect and trust. It is a greater act of love and kindness to give your mate a way to reenter the marriage with dignity and respect.
2007-02-27 17:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like we're just a little bit bitter today but you got that all twisted because I'm sure all women don't have those same views on affairs but when you ask a question on here if that's the way someone feels well that's what they state because it's their opinion but personally it's 2 sides to every story and if you just hear the one side then the opinion is given from that statement and far as what my grandmother and mother might have took in their day your sadly mistaken to think most women are gonna truly take that kind of stuff today. Because this is a whole different generation and you know that every generation changes because every generation gets weaker but WISER!
2007-02-27 16:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would rather struggle and have some self respect then to let a guy possibly bring home a STD or worse. I also have more confidence that i can do it on my own and it may not be easy but no one will push me around!
I would also be teaching my kids that no one has the right to treat you badly and you have no right to treat some else this way either! Money is not everything!!!
2007-02-27 16:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yep! You DONT know what you would do until you are put into the situation at hand! I thought I would NEVER stay with a cheater and he thought he would NEVER cheat. S-h-i-t happens to even the best people with the best intentions. Cirumstances change. As devastating as learning of his fling was, we have worked out our problems and now our marriage is on trak to becoming better than ever. So many things we do not take for granted anymore.
I also kind of feel sorry for these people that think it ould never happen to them. I was once one of those people. Then one day you find out that you and your spouse are human and make mistakes.
2007-02-27 16:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both my ex-husbands cheated. The first one I dropped like a hot rock. The second one I cheated in return (I don't recommend it but at first it was great vengeance...later it ate at my soul).
So, no, a lot of us don't take crap off the men and let them use us as doormats as our mothers and grandmothers were forced to. We have walked the walk as well as talked the talk and would again in a second.
2007-02-27 16:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'd do the same thing if I wanted to sell myself out! Apparently you don't think very highly of yourself if you think all you can get is the crumbs that fall under the table so you can "live comfortably". If you've decided that you must settle for table scraps instead of having the courage to really get what you want out of life, then that's your decision.
By the way, times have changed for women. Women are now empowered to create their own lives and their own happiness independent from men...The choice is yours. If you have a daughter, would you want her to settle for 2nd rate instead of finding true happiness and fullfillment?
2007-02-27 16:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Estimates of women cheating run from 40 to as high as 80%.
A lot of women deny they have in polls, but then admit to certain behaviors.
Apparently a lot of women consider what they have done not to be cheating because they were:
Confused
Drunk
Lonely
Neglected
Abused
or it was "just a kiss", or "we didn't finish", or "I don't count him".
They have weird ways of rationalizing it to themselves and denying that they have actually done it.
Men at least own up to it, at least to themselves.
EDIT sorry I misunderstood your question. You meant why do they stay with cheaters. Sorry....
2007-02-27 16:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you are WAY off, and must not be too well educated, so let ME tell YOU something, as a WELL educated female...
i DID leave him for cheating, Once you cheat you ALWAYS do!
i dont cheat, and since getting rid of that loser, i have been ten times better off, financially...
and my mother, nor my grandmother was a Whore... was yours? probably... there's where your problem is moron!
2007-02-27 16:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
That may work for you but there are other women (myself included) who think more of our self-respect and dignity than material concerns.
2007-02-27 15:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kitten 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋