I dated a guy in HS. He married the girl he cheated on me w/. We have been frenz since then. I am in a relationship, he's married. I still call him, see him, and go to him for answers if I have a prob w/ my significant other. We live in diff states, but still close. He sometimes still asks why we never ended up together. I really love my sig other. As a matter of fact, my sig other and ex were frens in H.S., I would never cheat on him, but I still like the ex. (Ex and I broke up 13 yrs ago, I have 5 kids for current man) Is it becuz we still talk and he gives me "straight" answers on life? The kind of answers u won't hear from your husband because he loves u.
2007-02-27 07:54:13 · 4 answers · asked by edc86520 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you already know the answer to your question. All you have to do is take a minute and think about how the other people in the situation would feel if they found out that you and your ex still were communicating. Also think about how it would feel to be your boyfriend or the wife of your ex. It doesn’t feel to good does it? Even if it seems like you’ll aren’t doing anything bad it can get interpreted to be more than what it is. Does your ex call you when he has a problem? Or are you the only one making the initial contact? That should let you know something, that he isn’t dependent on you or your opinion. Think about how you would feel if he wasn’t in your life, would you feel unwanted? I’m just giving you something to think about… I try not to tell people what to do because there is always two sides to a story and you know really what is best! I hope this helps!!
2007-02-27 08:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your question about being able to talk to him. You talk about him as a friend and that you like him. You did not say you want to hop in bed with him. So everything you say is OK.
Of course, if what you are really saying is that you have a strong sexual attraction to him and the reason you talk to him is to be near him, then there is something else going on.
When you have a problem with your significant other, he should not be the person you are talking to, BTW.
2007-02-27 16:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you trust this man, have an emotional connection with him. there is a connection that nothing can break, he likes u too. maybe he still wonders why he didn't choose u over her, but he did choose her, and u chose someone else too. all works out the way it is suppose to, believe god puts us with the one he wants us to be with, we sometimes have no answers to why we didn't end up with a certain person, we just end up with who we are suppose to be with. we never forget some guy's, never do. its okay to keep him in your heart as long as u keep it friends and never cross the line.
2007-02-27 16:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him to his wife
2007-02-27 16:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ravioli man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋