How do you keep your anger from getting out of control?

Answer 1

1. STOP -

2. THINK

3. ASK yourself just WHAT you are really angry about

4. ASK yourself is it really worth it?

5. ASK yourself is your anger stemming from fear or from resentment from something else or what

6. BREATHE

7. WALK AWAY - until you calm down then

8. CONVERSE - WITH not AT and try to iron out the issue without making it all about the other person's shortcomings

Answer 2

Evaluate what it is that is causing the anger. Then decide if it is worth the energy. Why is it making you angry? Is it a matter of control? Will it matter six months...a year...from now?

If anger takes over, leave the scene. Walk it off. Throw balls. Do something to release the tension in a non-harmful way.

If possible, sit down with the person with whom you are angry and talk. Keep emotion out of it. Talk facts and try hard to understand his/her point of view. Compromise is always better than never "giving in."

Answer 3

If I get so angry I don't know what I am going to do, I hug my wife/kid, close my eyes, and don't talk or listen to anything. I don't let go, but I am nothurting anyone either. After about 10-15 seconds I am calmed down enough to enter into rationality again, and I have not hit anyone, thrown anything, or said anything horrible.

Some might not like this, but it's a lot better than what SOME people do.

Answer 4

Get away from the situation. Go for a walk and just keep walking until I work through whatever got me angry. If that doesn't work, I usually hit some inanimate object. I have 2 knuckles shattered because of it, but it is better to hit something inanimate and hurt myself than to hit a person or animal, whatever may have upset me.

Answer 5

Just remember that when you blow your top you look like an idiot. The person who can lower their voice and speak slowly when they're mad really spooks people out a lot more that yelling and screaming does. Breathe deeply and really think about what you're going to say when you're angry. If possible, practice with others "arguing" with your ex or whoever it is that's making you mad. Control is the key. If you start yelling you really make no sense.

Answer 6

Well, allow me to suggest that you ponder these things when you get mad.

You have hurt people who didnt deserve it. You have done things to others that made them feel like crap, even when they didnt deserve it. You have done things to others that you knew wasnt right or proper.

You at times havent cared if you were right or not. You have refused to listen to people who made sense, for you were simply unwilling to change or be better or give up acting as you wanted, even if you knew it hurt others.

You have acted spoiled, childish and so forth. You have probably acted as those who are angering you are acting.

Think of those things when you get mad or when you want to explode. For we are usually quilty of the things which we get mad at others for, if we will only be adult enough to look back and admit it.

Lastly, remember that a human cannot think properly or well when they are mad, angry, upset or pissed off. At times, the best way to fix something is to out think it.

Answer 7

If the argument seems to be getting out of control then one of you MUST END IT by saying we can continue this discussion later when we calm down. Try it it may help.

Answer 8

Susan, here is what I do. I go into a closet and scream until it hurts. I then go for a walk or run and I come back relaxed and ready to take on the day.

Answer 9

If you are capable: walk, walk, walk, then if you still haven't calmed down, walk some more. Even just removing yourself from the situation and getting fresh air can help you regain your composure.

Answer 10

I simply walk away. No matter what it is or who it is that's pissing me off, I just walk away from the situation! Removing yourself from the situation, gives you time to cool down & collect your thoughts.