Do you think its wrong to have a baby before marriage?

Answer 1

Ok i will tell you my story. My boyfriend (now husband) and i had been together for 6 years before we decided to have a baby together. We had our son when we were both 21 years old. We felt like we were already married so years past and really we didn't give it much thought but we finally made it official on Valentines Day of 2006 when we finally married after dating for 11 years. So we have been married for one year and been together for almost 12 years (in may).
It worked for us. When it comes down to it all it is -is a ring and a piece of paper. We already knew what commintment was and all that goes with marriage before we married.

Everyone is different though, some may think it is wrong to have a child before marriage just like sex before marriage but how many wait until marriage to have sex?
Not too many....

Answer 2

It is complicated. There is no simple answer. ... It's not necessarily "wrong" per say. But it's definitely a good idea to commit yourselves to a life together and to have a family TOGETHER by marriage.
We live in a weird world today, where some things - a lot of things - are not the way "they used to be". If you ask a religious person they will probably say that it is wrong to have a child before marriage. If you ask a couple that had children outside of marriage and it worked out, they will say it's perfectly fine.... I say if the father is committed enough to stay with you and support you then why not get married? If he is not committed, then don't get married because it will lead to no good and the stress of a bad marriage or even a seemingly simple solution like a divorce can be devastating to children - take it from someone who knows :) - and to parents as well.
It is your life. If you feel strong enough to cope with the consequences and you feel you can get enough support from family and friends if the the father decides to step out of you and baby's lives, then you are a 100% ready for a child outside of marriage. (Although, even if you get married nothing is guaranteed for life.) The most important is to have love in your life. Love is even more important than marriage, but usually the two go together.
Another thing to consider after all this... a child needs the input/caring/advice of both his/her parents for healthy emotional development. If the father decides to leave will he have a father-like-figure to turn to?
Hopefully I didn't confuse you even more. It's just an opinion :)

Answer 3

Sometimes in certain cultures having a baby out of wedlock is considered taboo, but in this day and age, it's becoming more rampant and widely accepted. I personally don't think it's "wrong", although the best time for a baby would be after "marriage" or any long term, solid, commited relationship. The most important thing is caring for the baby, providing for it and loving the baby.

Answer 4

I think that if you are in a loving, committed relationship with someone, then no it's not wrong. I think that if two people love each other, a ring on their finger and some legal documents won't make a difference.
Yes, I am married, but my husband and I lived together in a married-type relationship for 2 1/2 years before that. We have 2 beautiful sons together and 1 was born before we got married. We still love each other very much & are still very committed to one another.

Answer 5

I think it's fine if the mum and dad have already bought a house/moved into each other's. If the marriage is more than 2 months after the baby, then it does get sorta weird. THen again, some people put their weddings on hold to wait for better weather, which is fine.

Answer 6

I use to always say that it didn't matter, i could be with someone and not be married, but then once i became pregnant with my first it became extremely important for me. I am now pregnant with our second child and want to be married more than anything-its kinda weird i changed that much, but i guess it all depends on the person.
I think it might be easier if you are married-we had to go have the affidavit notarized because he didn't have his license with him when our child was born-if we were married i don't think i would have that problem, i also think it is easier when it comes to insurance.
but i say to each his own-just know what your getting into, either way married or not the mother is the one in charge of the baby, unless it goes through the courts-i don't really understand that but when i was filling out paperwork right after my daughter was born it was on there-but that could be based on where you live too.

Answer 7

Not necessarily. If you can take care of the kid, and if the daddy is going to know his baby, then I say to each her own. It's better than having an abortion, to me. If you don't believe in having a baby before mariage, then you shouldn't have sex before marriage. The whole reason that religious and social groups disapprove of children outside of wedlock isn't the children themselves...it's the fornication that led to them. I, personally, am in a very committed relationship with my unborn baby's father, although we are not married. I don't appreciate people pressuring us to get married, either, because I'd rather know he's marrying me because he wants to than wonder if he's just doing it because "it's the right thing". Basically, I think everyone has the right to live their own life how they want...but don't be a hypocrite. If you're having sex outside marriage, don't criticise people who become pregnant outside marriage, because you're doing the exact same thing, and you could be next!

Answer 8

Yes, but I think it is wrong to have sex before marriage. If you don't have sex, you won't have to worry about having a baby. I waited until my wedding night and I know a lot of other people who waited too.
Popular cultural opinion does not determine right and wrong.

Answer 9

I'm not a christian and i think it is wrong to have a baby without being married.

because, the child needs to have a stable home life with two parents. they need to be raised in an environment where they see a man, and a woman together exchanging in healthy interpersonal intimate relationship. father should be as much a part of the childs life as mother is and having both contributes to the well being and self esteem development of the child. unfortunately, there are too many children who don't know home life as being stable with both parents.

Answer 10

No. I think it might be inconvenient, and hard on the child if the parents split up, but I don't think it's wrong. Many single parents are raising their children better than they could have if they stayed in a relationship, and some women want children but do not feel that marraige is for them. I've known several couples who are not married but have been together for 5, 10, up to 20 years and have kids and a great relationship. It really just depends on who you are, what you do, and where you are at in life.