Everytime he goes out of his way to give me physical attention I brag on him and tell him much I like it. I try not to complain because I don't want him to feel as if he has dissappoined me. How can I tell him I want more without discouraging him?
2007-02-27 07:44:18 · 10 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you are good woman in this regard. Some guys can't appreciate a woman who takes care of them. Have a talk with him and try to find out the root of his problem.
2007-02-27 08:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are selfish beings in general, especially if you get a Mama's boy. One who's Mom gave them everything on a silver platter. Most men are very oblivious too, they think we need work and they do everything just right when it comes to their relationships.
Don't think bragging on him will get what you want, yeah you can attract more bee's with honey. Yes, it helps their motivation when you show gratitude but that alone is not going to get him touching you more. Also you said; "I try not to complain" good, don't complain. No guy likes to be nagged. Instead you need to open the lines of communication, the best relationship is one of being able to talk to each other about your needs. He won't be disappointed in you or discouraged.
IDEAS:
1. One night initiate foreplay, tell him in a flirty way..."You know what you do that drives me wild baby?" Then proceed to tell him how you like for him to touch you.
2. If it's the non-sexual touch you desire. The kind every woman needs, the one that makes your bond to him stronger. The kind of touch you receive when you know he's not just touching you because he wants something. He's touching you to show he loves you and wants to make you feel good.
Do this: After lovemaking set up a massage you give him one and he gives you one. Use oils , candles and mood music. This scenario after lovemaking is understood it's not for sexual gratification it's for another type of gratification. Do this a few times and then start doing it alone without the first step. In these sessions tell him you want to explore each other through touch. Tell him you want to get to know each others bodies in a whole new way. Take this as the opportunity to tell him what ways you love for him to touch you, and that you really need this touch from him. Then it's not threatening to him that all along you needed what he isn't giving you, it's more like you discovered it together. Soon he'll be touching you more without a special setting, he'll feel the bond grow stronger from it and be doing it for you and feel like he's doing it for himself.
Have fun!
2007-02-27 17:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Tawnya♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to "train" him. LOL (pardon the expression guys :) )
Tell him things like, "It drives me crazy when you touch me like that! Don't stop! Ooooh yeah...that makes me hot!" Basically giving him positive verbal and physical feedback (doing sexy things with your body) when he's doing what you want him to do. Take is hands and guide him in a sexy way if you have to. By stroking the ego, you make your man feel like a total stud and he'll repeat his "moves" on you over and over again. Also, be a little extra responsive sexually when he does what you want him to do- reward is a powerful motivator! LOL
In regard to what the people above say about him being selfish, it's possible, but it's more likely that he's just your typical man! Typically, men are not as "touchy feely" as women, and they don't understand that women are aroused differently than men. For them, arousal and satisfaction are usually pretty simple. Often times it doesn't take much more than looking at you naked or just thinking about it. A lot of men don't realize that a woman needs more than that- we need a lot of physical attention. Once he learns that, he'll be all over it- because it boosts every man's ego, selfish or not, to believe that he is the studmaster in the bedroom!
2007-02-27 16:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want more touching...then YOU be the first to make the moves! Touch him in ways YOU like, he will probabley follow suit!
Men like physical attentions from us women too....its not always about just sex.....
2007-02-27 16:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep telling him that what he does is good to you, show him. Some men are shy about hearing how good they are in bed. Move to the beat of his rhythm, and moan groan.
2007-02-27 15:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move his hands to the sweet spots. He'll get the hang of it.
2007-02-27 15:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is selfish. tell him how you feel. a man who does that is not really into you.
2007-02-27 15:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by mercedesgal63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might want to touch/be with you more. tell him, he may be afraid of smothering you where you don't want him anymore. be honest & loving about it.
2007-02-27 15:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is lazy and selfish that's why. He obviously could care less if he is pleasing you; it's all about him. Get rid of the jerk.
2007-02-27 15:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I THINK I WOULD HAVE TO AGREE WITH SARAH, UNFORTUNATELY. HE IS SELFISH.
IF YOU TELL HIM AND HE STILL DOESN'T SEE THINGS YOUR WAY, HE JUST DOESN'T CARE.
2007-02-27 16:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋