hi my gf got back with me last week, and i was so happy. and now her nans ill and her step dad and mother are on the verge of splitting. what do i do to help my gf ? i start getting upset and arguing cos my gf cant find to see me and she says she finds it hard to find me time at the me cos of the problems at home! what can i do to support my gf i like her to bits and i dont wanna ever lose her again. each time i ring her i end up arguing with her saying why she not meet me or owt. please help on what i could do
2007-02-27 07:44:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No offense, but stop being selfish. It sounds like this is a very trying time for her and you are just adding more to her already full plate by pressing her to spend time with you. I understand you want to spend time with her, but she just needs some space. Once she realizes you are willing to give that to her, while letting her know you are there if she needs you, she will come around more. You will find that she suddenly does need to be with you when you are giving her what she needs without expecting her to take care of your needs. Good luck and just be patient.
2007-02-27 07:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think i can relate to your gf here. In the past 6 days, 3 of my grandparents have become sick and been in the hospital. It has caused me a lot of emotional distress. Be there to support her. If she needs to be at home to sort things out, let her be. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, trust me. She may feel like you are the only person she can let her anger out on, since everything else is going crazy. maybe you can go over to her house, or go pick her up. Don't make her come meet you, you go meet her for once! Just give her some space. Maybe get some take-away food and go over to her house with a DVD. It could take her mind off everythign and would probably be a great relief for her!
2007-02-27 19:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the answer self-evident?
She is having some MAJOR issues in her life. These problems means she doesnt have much time.
You can SEE this is true and valid and yet are STILL arguing with her because she (REALLY) doesnt have time to see you.
It's not because she doesnt want to, its because she CAN'T. Acknowledge there is a difference between can't and won't and get off her back!!
Jeez, she's having a tough time, she's going to be pretty upset and then on top of that she's got a selfish boyfriend who is giving her hassle because she has more important things going on??!
Either stop putting yourself first or do her a favour and dump her because a guilt trip from the one person who's suppose to support you is the LAST thing she needs!
2007-02-27 15:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by spagbolfordinner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send your gf a card or flowers to let her know that your thinking about her, put a note with it to tell her that you care for her and will be here when she is ready to talk. I know it must be hard not seeing her but if your meant to be then you will have the rest of your lives together. Sometimes family things need to come first and as things seem to be very upsetting for her this now she may just need to step back from your relationship a little for now. Also try and ignore any nasty or hurtful things she may say to you as sometimes people takes things out on the person they are closest to. Good luck , just give it time
2007-02-27 16:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult time for you and your girlfriend. Just try and be there for her as and when she needs you. Her mind is probably in a turmoil at the moment. No matter hard it is for the both of you if you really love each other I am sure things will work out in the long run. Try to give her space whilst she is dealing with this and I am sure she will appreciate your understanding. Be strong!! Good Luck
2007-02-27 15:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by chris350890 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop pressuring her! I know that you want to spend every spare minute together, but she is dealing with lots of stuff at the moment and she needs a bit of space.
Can you not go over to her house with a big bar of chocolate and a comedy film on DVD for you both to watch? Then leave afterwards.
Give her time and space...she love you all the more for it when she has gotten through this hard patch.
2007-02-27 16:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She doesn't have time for you right now. Send her a note (that she can read when it's convenient to HER)- and simply say that you love her and you hope she's doing okay. Don't mention how you MISS her. That will only instill guilt - and she doesn't need that right now.
Sounds to me like you are smothering her. She needs space - especially now when things are going on with her immediate family.
The best way you can help -is to let her know you're there when she needs you. Then - wait - PATIENTLY!!!
2007-02-27 15:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woooo..hold up on the me me me thing, this girl needs you help not your mithering..Bend the rules, see her when she can see you, even if it means cancelling stuff.Give her a wide birth for a while and some time to chill out, she needs to feel as if she can come to your house for a break from the mayhem thats going on in hers....you feel disheartened because shes not all yours, some thing else has all her attention at the moment and your not liking it one bit..are you? well your going to have to bite the bullet and realised that she's with you because she wants to not because she needs to.
2007-02-27 15:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say be patient , dnt push her cz u gonna lose her if u do that, at the moment she needs u as u are the one person she nt havin problems wit so try and stop arguin and help her
2007-02-28 06:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by fishbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen us girls are funny things, we seem to push those who are close away from us. You just need to reassure her that you are there for here any time she needs you but not push her into talking to you, if she needs you and your not pushing her she will come to you
2007-02-27 16:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Dani 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋