Hello I have a 16 year old. He doesn't have many friends in the neighborhood because there aren't any.
He follows me about constantly. I recently put him in online school so he is home with me all the time. So I figured that would put an end to it. But it didn't.
I can't be in our room without him either sitting on the bed next to me or sitting right outside the bed room door. I don't have any me time at all. He won't let me have it. I take a shower or a bath he is talking to me though the door. Same when I go to the bathroom.
I walk downstairs he follows. Back up he follows again.
If hubby and I need to go out and run errands he throws a massive fit that he has to go. I am at my wits end and I don't know what to do. I need some space for me time.
2007-02-27 07:20:54 · 14 answers · asked by frnksgrl013 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He was just taken out of public schoool. They kept passing him and not teaching him. Now he is getting A's.
We have had him involved in other activites.He quits them all . Sports, music etc..He was like this while he was in school also. He doesn't want to make friends. He seems to thing I should entertain him 24/7. When he goes to his friends he isn't gone long cause he wants to come home and be by me. I don't know wh]y he does this. He just says that he loves me. He didn't like any of the answers. You are right he was right here.
2007-02-27 09:43:34 · update #1
he probably need counseling or something, thats just not normal for a person my age to want to hang out with their parents...
2007-02-27 10:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Silent Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor boy is lonely and wants to have contact with someone (anyone) and at his age, why are you pushing him away.
Schedule a time that he should be doing his studies and make sure he's making the most out of it (morning, evening to completed by morning/afternoon/evening). Get him involved in something outside the house like sports, music, classes a part time job etc. Find a computer game that may be interesting or find a great book he wouldn't mind reading.
If he's hanging around you, go about your day and get him to help you with whatever your doing (cleaning, laundry, cooking etc.). Get him involved with helping and chat about things while your doing it.
I thoroughly enjoy it when my seventeen year old boy loves hanging around me and we chat away. It's the greatest feeling in the world to know that he enjoy's my company, put a few chores in it and suddenly he has something better to do (LOL). If only my daughter (who is almost sixteen) was so easy to talk to and enjoyed my company, I'd be on cloud nine then.
Enjoy the time and make it worthwhile, he'll be gone in a few years and you'll miss out on the time you could have spent with him.
2007-02-27 15:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your son is lonely and bored. Being educated online, he is always home it is no wonder why he would want to run errands with you. What is wrong with public school where he can socialize and meet friends his own age? If that is not an option i would look into some programs such as a sports team or something. It is unhealthy for you to be the only person in his life and if you are the one who chose to have him schooled at home then it is not his fault.
2007-02-27 15:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some me time, then you are going to have to put him in public school so he can meet some friends. Or at his age he can have a job, you can always let him get a job so you can have some time to yourself and you and your husband can spend some time together. I don't know what I would do if I had a 16 year old do that.. I know my 19 month old does that.. but then again he is not in school yet. lol goodluck
2007-02-27 15:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send his butt back to school. He is bored and lonely and needs kids his own age. If he doesnt want to do that then see if he can find a job to go to part time. Or just sit him down and tell him that you need some time and for him to go play a video game or something.
2007-02-27 17:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow most parents complain that they never see their kids. I don't understand why he's so attached to you. You need to stop this now or he's going to be a momma's boy forever. Instead of signing him up for online classes [which just forces him to be home-doesn't make sense] sign him up for a club, or group or sport. There's more resources out there than you may know of.
2007-02-27 15:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, I always think of my boy when I read things about 16-year-olds. I have one too! He's pretty much attached to me too and is definitely a momma's boy, but I don't think to the extent that you described. Maybe get him involved in some kind of sport or help him develop a hobby of some kind.....maybe that would help? Does he like to read or listen to music? Maybe he's just bored.
2007-02-27 15:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs a girlfriend mabye. Does he do what other
teens do, like go to chatrooms, Myspace, etc? Try talking to
him about it and if that dosen't work, try counceling.
Or you could send him to public school so he can associate
with kids his own age. Youth groups, Sports, anything.
2007-02-27 15:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably right behind you while you write this. I would ask him what the heck his problem is that he can't leave you alone for a minute! Geez, he's never going to leave the house! Go out on your own to the mall, or to dinner, anything! He needs to grow up.
2007-02-27 15:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by tmac 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
aww he loves u dont be mean to him, he just wants to be with his mommy i know hes 16 but still.and ui should defeintly put him back into public school so he can make freinds and be out of the house
2007-02-27 20:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by PinkGink 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i looked all over the internet ot find an anwer on this and i cant find anything about it. i think you should take your son to see a therapist and see if you can get to the bottom of this cause something doesnt seem right about that.
2007-02-27 15:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by Jeremysmom05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋