We would have to get married since we are in the military..He's 27, I'm 19..
2007-02-27 07:17:23 · 13 answers · asked by Sunshine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
talk to him about it, really, there's no better way than to just come out and say "I really want to have a kid soon, how bout you?" I did it like that and now my hubby and I are trying. For us we waited about 6 months or so after having that conversation to start trying, but it was easier for me once we set a timeframe to start trying.
2007-02-27 07:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 19. You don't need to have kids right now. Why don't you mention to him that Someday you would like to have kids and see where the conversation goes. If he's not into it, get out and have some fun. When you have kids, it's like adding 10-15 years to your maturity level. Do you really want to be 30 already?
Do you two have a dog? That's a good baby step, but you can always get rid of your dog if it doesn't work out. Not so much with the kid
2007-02-27 15:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Stuckart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to offend you, but I think you have enough on your plate at this point in your life. Don't even bother asking your boyfriend, it's not a good idea to begin with.
Why on earth do you want to have a baby while you're still in the military? Don't you think that just a 'little' selfish? Not just you, but BOTH of you are in the military. What kind of parenting could you possibly hope to offer during that?
I'm not saying that you can't be dedicated to your child, but if you can't offer 100% of your time to them (especially when they are babies), THEN DON'T HAVE IT.
You need to grow up some more before you consider bringing new life to this planet.
2007-02-27 15:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by V9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion is to get married first. Get yourself established in your marriage and get extablished financially. Babies can put an incredible strain on a relationship and on your bank account. I was married 7 years before I had a baby and it was hard on me and my hubby. You are only 19 - you have plenty of time.
2007-02-27 15:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know how to talk to your boyfriend, then you shouldnt be having babies with him.
Wait, get married on your own time, and then wait, be married for awhile before you have kids.
2007-02-27 15:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some courage and ask your boyfriend, talk it out, talk every little detail of it out. Figure out if it'll be best for the baby and not for you. If you don't know how to talk about it then maybe you aren't ready?
2007-02-27 15:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to get married and have a kid. Of course you should be married why would you have a kid with out being married? Not being married is very hurtful to the child. A child is not a pet.
2007-02-27 15:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ummmmmm yeah are you just doing that so you won't have to work anymore or something? You should wait until you are mature enough you be a GOOD supportive parent.
I know you won't ad-head to my advice but will go blindly stumbling into parenthood with out the proper tools necessary to successfully raise a productive human being, so to you I say, GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-27 15:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try asking him what he thinks of having children. If he seems to think that having kids is great... then tell him what you're thinking.
Good luck!
2007-02-27 15:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by gabriellemelissa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just get married?
2007-02-27 15:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ricky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋