2007-02-27 07:12:04 · 52 answers · asked by JAMO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No! relationships is not just about sex or body if so then ALL relationships would be reduced to sex and where is the love????? if you can handle with that situation better divorce her! she does not deserve something like that!
2007-02-27 07:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Fatima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am old fashioned and live in a dream world, but in my opinion there is never a time when it would be alright to have an affair while you are married. Not knowing her details or problems I will assume it is an illness of some type. Put the shoe on the other foot bud, if you couldnt have sex are you good with her going out and having an affair. Somehow I think not. If an affair is what you need to get you thru the day have it, but give her the common decency she deserves and divorce her first. tvtop_toptv
2007-02-27 07:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Would you want your wife to have sex with someone else if you couldn't have sex with her? Probably not. And there is not only sex involved in a marriage. There are a lot of other ways you can "have sex". Why not buy a book and find out other positions (if she can't have vaginal sex) or other types of sex. She can provide you with sex even if she can't enjoy receiving it. If you believe that this is something you want to do then you should discuss it with your wife before you just go out and have an affair and devastate her when she finds out. Good communication is very important in any marriage, talk to your wife and see if she has any suggestions. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-27 07:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is definitely a dilema. I think that you and your wife need to sit down and discuss what can be done about the situation. If the problem with your wife is short term, then I am sure that there are things that you two can do that will help to alleviate the need that you may have for gratification. Sensual massages....oral...toys...etc. If your wife is not interested in any of that or if it is a long term situation then you two need to talk about your options. I don't think that you should just have an affair behind your wife's back because that will be inconsiderate and demeaning to your wife...especially if she has a medical condition. If you two talk about your options and she realizes that you have needs, she may be open to you having sexual encounters...you all should explore all options before going that route. She may be more understanding than you may think.
2007-02-27 07:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Curious_Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not right, unless your wife agrees to it, but even then it may destroy the relationship because of jealousy. It's NEVER okay to have a secret affair! That's just stabbing someone who loves you in the back, any way you look at it. You need to be up front and honest about it, and talk with her about how you're feeling.
Besides, there are plenty of other ways to get sexual satisfaction other than traditional vaginal sex...have you and your wife tried oral sex, er...private part massages, or vibrating sex toys? Or...the "back door"? Then of course, there's always self-stimulation!
2007-02-27 07:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to your wife about this? It's never alright to have an affair but you know what? The only one whose opinion matters in this scenario, is your wife's.
It's only okay if she gives you the go-ahead. The same way if she wanted an affair, you'd have to be in agreement with it as well.
After all, it's just you and her at the end of the day....
2007-02-27 07:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not right! If you still love your wife, despite what she's going through then you should not be thinking of having an affair. You must don't take God's vows very seriously because you'll have to answer to Him.
2007-02-27 07:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
yes it is why would you want to disrespect yourself and wife, if she can not have sex for what ever reason be it medical or what ever, and you can not handle what is going on with her then divorce her and get on with your life and be a heal in her eyes. think about you wedding vows for better or for worse. those word must have meant nothing to you or you would be at her side and not after someone else. a divorce is the way to go instead of cheating on a sick woman, affairs are ugly and humiliating for both of you. who knows maybe she get better and find someone who will love her through thick and thin, just don't grind the knife any deeper. leave her in peace.
2007-02-27 07:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not about the sex... that is just a bonus. So yes it's wrong to have an affair. If you feel that you need some that badly and you can't wait until she is able to have sex again, then you need to look at other methods of releasing yourself... self pleasure or oral pleasure...
2007-02-27 07:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
If your wife can't have sex, you should figure out what you can do with each other, even if its not as physically satisfying, tough.
If your wife refuses to even be in the same room as you while you get off, then that's not can't, its won't, and my answer would change.
2007-02-27 15:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋