There's a beautiful Arab woman across the street from me who's husband is always yelling at her...?

Question

Then he leaves for a few days.She always looks at me with those sad eyes like she wants to tell me something or to rescue her. It's not like I'm being nosy. I'm working on rebuilding my porch. She came over yesterday asking to use my phone which I thought was unusual. Would it offend her if I asked her if she was being abused?

Haha, I'm not worried about him killing me. I'm one bad dude and I have people, ya know what I mean?fuggetaboutit

Answer 1

Call the police the next time it happens

Answer 2

Well now a days Arab men dont lay their hands on their wives, because she can tell her family and all her brothers and cousins will beat him up. When my aunt (now 75) was beaing abused by her husband like 50 yrs ago, all 6 of my uncles plus mycousins FLEW ON A PLANE to kick his a s s. It is so nice for you to care, ask her what is wrong an if you can help. An dher being ARab has nothing to do with the situation because there are abusive men in every race and u stating that is bound to get you racist answers.

Answer 3

It would be a lot worst if you are not doing anything about the situation when you know for a fact it is not right.The fact alone that she is being abused by his husband is not a proper behavior and needs to be looked into. As a human being you have the rights to protect anybody at whatever it is that you can do, as a neighbor you have a responsibility to your society and neighborhood as a citizen, and if ever you are pursuing on her then doing something that can ease down her tension might break the ice for you two.

Answer 4

People in the middle east are raised to believe the men rule and can do whatever they want to. If you ask her if shes being abuse chances are shes going to be too embarrassed to say yes and she will say no. Women that are abused dont like admitting it, and being from the middle east makes it worse. I'd get to know her maybe ask her for coffee or something. From the middle east or not all women love to shop! After you've talked to her 2 or 3 times tell her she can always tell you or ask you anything that you wont judge, or be 2 faced and repeat anything she ever says. Knowing you wont repeat it might help to open her up. The hard part comes in after she says yes, then what? Have some information ready for her and dont be surprised if it doesnt help. All's you can do is be a friend until shes ready to take that next step. Good luck.

Answer 5

If he is getting physical then you could call the cops, but if he is just yelling then its up to her to leave and have a better life. Now you say she is beautifully so your attracted to her and maybe deep down inside you want her with you, if that is the case talk to her and see if she feels the same way, if she does then rescue her and make a better life for her, but of course its always easier said then done because you will have problems with her husband unless you move away. But go ahead talk to her ask her if she is happy if she needs help . Good luck

Answer 6

you could tell her (next time she braves the walk over) that there are places she can go if she needs to get away from home where she would be safe. get the address for the local woman's shelter and keep it handy just in case. or next time you have a female friend over and you know her husband is gone. maybe she could go knock on the door and borrow some sugar (excuse for a talk). females tend to confide in other females.she may not have any relatives in the country and no friends... a female could bring her some welcome information

Answer 7

hi,
there lives are so different from ours that it is hard to say what you should do. those women over there are so sad anyway you would think that when they leave there home land that the husbands would at the lest pretend to not be so mean to there wives. if you question her she could be punished from what i understand. just talking to her could be considered as her having an affair and put her life in great danger. you would not have to worry about yourself but you would have to worry quite a bite about her. she could be found dead some where, and he would be protected be the embassy.

Answer 8

The Islamic world is a totally different world...DO NOT try to apply your values and rationales to their world...your act of kindness in your mind could get her beaten...and she will (most of the time) not back you up if he pushes the issue...he could upon a whim come over and start a fight...shoot you or a myriad of other things.

They have not reconciled themselves to our world...my advice is to not involve yourself in their matters unless you can prove abuse on incontrovertable issues...if you see him hit her and can get it video taped or witnessed by someone besides yourself..then you might have a chance...I know that you have a genuine desire to help and not to offer assistance /help/counseling is foreign to us...do not expect her to come to her own self defense...it just doesn't happen...usually

I know that this isn't fair, decent by our standards...but you could get yourself into a real schit storm if you don't have your ducks inorder.

IF you suspect abuse then go talk to the police to see if you can report it ...ask their advice...just the mention mught get them to pay a visit...again remember that this could get the woman beaten or worse....I know that this is a worst case thing but it has happened...

Answer 9

Have a friendly conversation with her (about the weather and whatnot). If you feel she is comfortable talking to you, maybe you can mention the noise you hear, and ask her if perhaps there's anything you can do to help. Give her your phone # if you feel it's appropriate. Don't push it or pry into her personal business, but let her know you're willing to help.

Answer 10

I would call the police and tell them about it. I DO think it's your business when someone is being mistreated, regardless of their religious affiliation. Who knows what might happen if you don't say anything.