It might just be me but all my life I have been judged or felt like it. I cannot be myself around my family?

Question

and not feel self concious at any of my desition making. I just want to break out and be me without feeling ashamend of myself.

Answer 1

you dont have to see them exept birthdays and Xmas..

Answer 2

We can all put the blame on our families , or parents for a lot of issues, but there comes a time in our life that we have to start taking responsibility for our self. I know how you feel. I figure after you become an adult at the age of 18, you pretty much get to start making your own decisions for your self. So, everything you felt, or felt the family was the fault for, can now be changed. BUT, it's up to YOU, to do the changing. It's up to YOU to become the person you want to be, the person you will like, and be proud of. The past is the past. The more time you waste dwelling on what was, the more energy you take away from being what could. So, I'd say be smart, and start being the person you want to be. You still have a family, but you are now, your own family. So, no more shame, and only go forward. IT WORKS!!

Answer 3

Hey there, try not to feel so bad about yourself. I can honestly say I know how you feel. They way it sounds to me, its as if something is expected of you from your family, and you might feel as if your not meeting that expectation. Just try to remember that you can only do so much and give so much. If someones always there to make the decisions for you, maybe that's why you're having such a hard time. If that's not the case, then you might be scared that whatever decision you come to, it might not be good enough.
But hey we all make mistakes, and we live with them, and that's when we learn from them. And whenever you feel that you are ready to "breakout" take small steps, start with something small, and when you turn around and truly see yourself you will notice the difference.

Take Care of Yourself.

Answer 4

People may not be judging you like you think. You may just have low self-esteem which makes you think that everyone judges you and nothing you do is ever good enough. You could try moving away but you can not escape yourself which is what the problem really is. I suggest counseling to see why you have such a low opinion of yourself.

Answer 5

You are being judged. It best you move far away so that way you won't be judge by your family just by strangers. We all judge each other it's human nature that away people are validate. It's not a matter of good or bad. If you are a artist they are always judge get use to it, it's life.

Answer 6

I somewhat know what you are going through. I always felt that my parents exspecially my dad wanted me to be like my sisters, which caused a lot of friction between all of us. One day I just woked up and had enough. and went to my family and told them I am going to be me and if you can not accept that. well that is your problem. and walked away. So I llisten to the rules, but I did my things the way I wanted to do it. not what they expect from me. just be yourself. and let them see the real you. they will love you no matter what you do . and its unconditional.

Answer 7

If you are old enough, then i suggest that you 'break out' and be yourself. Sometimes family can stifle your growth and all in their effort to help you (or so they might think). If you cannot talk to them about how you feel then by all means go ahead and be who you want to be, no one likes to be always feeling ashamed of oneself.

Answer 8

You have to get more self confidence. You are hiding who you truly are. You need to be yourself. You can't be what you think your family wants. Tell them this is who you are and if they don't like it too bad.

Answer 9

just be yourself you will fit in with certain people who you like to be around. Your family will always love you no matter what

Answer 10

wow you have issues